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02-06-2011, 12:24 AM

#71

melslove

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Ugh, i have/had a mother like that as well, she was/is extremely jealous of anything i did. I say do things that way you want. Have you ever read the book "Boundaries"? Great book, changed my life!

http://www.amazon.com/Boundaries-Whe...6980623&sr=8-1

02-06-2011, 03:03 AM

#72

liminanc

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There is no cheating since this isn't a test. I do that sometimes, it keeps me as warm as when I put on binding. The best advice I ever heard about mothers is "you need to accept her for who she is, not who you would like her to be", and this means that she is not someone who will say, "what a good idea, your not wasting fabric and it will look really nice" which is what she should say, if she was the supportive mother I/we strive to be. Instead she chooses to find fault, accept this is who she is, probably if you had put on binding she would have found fault with that. The important thing is YOU are enjoying yourself. Have fun. I find quilting to be great therapy.

02-06-2011, 03:05 AM

#73

Nathan's Mimi

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I would politely tell her that this is the way I am/or prefer (tying) to do my quilts.Then I also would have to say I believe you have no room to talk as you have 100's of tops that you haven't "sent out" to be quilted either! :shock:

02-06-2011, 03:50 AM

#74

Mamagus

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It is even quicker if you use the Sharon Schamber's tip and glue it with Elmer's and then stitch it with machine! Fast and Easy and looks good to boot!

02-06-2011, 03:52 AM

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Psychomomquilter

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Deanna, well you ladies helped me in a situation not too long ago, and you venting is good. Mom could be a bit jealous there. and as for thhe binding, guess I am cheating too!

I thought thats what we were supposed to do! I am still a newbe , and this is a new development. I don't think its cheating, money is tight in my household and I use whatever I have on hand, even if it is the extra material to fold over our quilts be it hand sewn or machine sewn!

02-06-2011, 04:10 AM

#76

ibequilting1

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Please do what pleases you. I think it is a great way to finish a quilt. I just need to learn to finish them. lol If you did the binding in the way your mother suggested it probably would not please her anyway. Quilting brings you joy so go for it.

02-06-2011, 04:27 AM

#77

smagruder

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I agree with everyone above. I have done it both ways and like the results of both. My binding will depend on the fabric I have on hand or IF I choose to buy special. Smile and say to yourself.... you do it your way, I will do it mine. Don't want to start anything with mom, she is already in a permanent bad mood it seems. Smile it is a beautiful day, somewhere. lol

02-06-2011, 04:30 AM

#78

vivnme

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My granddaughter says to me, "did you have fun making that? That's all that matters". Make it however you want, enjoy it, and change the tea to wine. :)

02-06-2011, 04:49 AM

#79

Tropical

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Thank you so much for the wonderful idea on how to bind a quilt. I'm still learning so much and I haven't actually finished a quilt yet because I have been afraid of the binding process. I love my quilt tops and haven't wanted to ruin them with a poorly done binding. Now that I have read your post, I can relax a little and move on in my quilting. Your cupcakes and hot chocolate sound quite tasty. :)

02-06-2011, 04:56 AM

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grann of 6

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Quote:

Originally Posted by Airwick156

I am doing binding on my quilt. There is enough of the backing fabric that I can just fold it over on all sides and hand sew it for the binding. My mother just called me and asked what I was doing and I told her that I was doing the binding on my quilt. And she proceeded to say "How are you doing it? You cheating and just folding it over or did you make real binding for it?" in just her normal mean voice she uses with me whenever she talks to me. I told her I just folded it over, no need to waste the fabric when its already there. And I can't afford to buy the extra fabric. So I use what I am able to use. I see no problem with this but she sure does and definitely makes me will aware of that fact.
When I make a quilt, I complete the whole thing before I go onto the next one. I do have a few quilt tops, mostly lap quilts that I have not gotten the backing on. Now she has probably a hundred if not more Tops that will never get done as she only likes to make the tops. But yet she complains and tells me how to do my quilts. Most of the time I can remind myself to just "rise above it" and "this too shall pass" attitude, but this time it seems to have really upset me. Because not only did she say that she also told me that I was wasting all my time making quilts since I don't have the money to get them machine quilted. I tie all of them, but one day, I am going to be able to get one machine quilted. I don't think I am wasting my time not at all. I enjoy making them even though I am not very good at it, but I am learning maybe slowly but I am learning. Okay...that said..."this too shall pass" finally kicked in and now I'm waiting for "Rise above it". Maybe if I fix me a cup of hot tea that will help. LOL :) Thanks for letting me vent.

I do nearly all my charity quilts by wrapping the backing to the front for binding and machine stitching it down. I like the look and ease of it. Your mother has never stopped being your mother; she needs to become your friend now that you are both adults. I like to think that my daughter is my friend and I can ask her opinions of things or give her my opinions of things without it becoming an argument. Some people can never get beyond being miserable and making others miserable. Take a deep breath, and just do things that make YOU happy and don't worry about her. She will never change.