cmagee84

Lots of good ideas given already, just wanted to say my heart is breaking for her and I will be praying.

greaterexp

You folks have to be the sweetest, kindest, and most creative people on earth. God bless you for the ideas and prayers.

sahm4605

I would do two things. A very very very special top to be finished after the baby is born and passes with his pic in the top. I would make most of it and give it to the mom at the "party" or what have you and after you get the baby's pic then make sure that it is large enough to hug her. that way it will be like the baby is always there to tell her that (s)he love her. and try and get some of the pics of the ultrasound and stuff to put in it. and the other thing would be a large enough wooden box to hold the quilt and a foot or hand print in. decoupage it with pics of the mommy to be and of the family. and inside line it with fabric and if they are religious maybe religious saying fabrics. this she can keep all her "baby" stuff in. I will be praying for the mommy and daddy and family to get through this tragic time.

fabric_fancy

i've lost 2 babies in similar circumstances.

you might want to contact the hospital in her area and get the number for the bereavement group for child loss.

most of these place have a memorial wall or walk where the names are listed - the fees aren't that high and the money goes to continuation of the bereavement group.

my dear friends purchased 2 bricks on the walk and a bench in the names of my 2 lost daughters.

it was the most wonderful thing that any one could have done for us.

i personally did not want a quilt or other memento items in my home as a daily reminder.

going thru this has been and will always be the most difficult time of my life and to have items in my home as a constant reminder would only keep the wound open.

its hard for people to understand because when you are given this news from the doctor you are given the opportunity to terminate the pregnancy.

as the mother you have to decide which way you want your child to die because either way that is the final end result.

no mother should ever have to choose which way her child shall die.

Thumbelina

My heart goes out to the family. I know what she's going through, as one of my grandsons was born with HLHS and we lost him after 21 months of watching him suffer.

Patty Patches

Prayers for this family.That is so sad

countrymaid

A fall silk arrangement that could be used as a grave marker before the headstone can be arranged for. It's hard to walk away from a precious spot that is yet to be marked. Your florist should have something with a ground spike that wouldn't blow away.

SherriB

I don't have any ideas, but as a Mother who has 3 Angels in Heaven, my heart just aches for her. I can understand what she is going through.

MaryAnnMc

When my friend's baby died after being born preemie, I gave them a tree to plant in their yard. They loved it. But fabric- fancy's idea of bricks/benches for a bereavement memorial is a wonderful idea.

Please tell her we're keeping her in our prayers, and you are a good friend. I lost my first to a very early miscarriage, but have been blessed with two healthy (now adult) kids. I am blessed.

NJ Quilter

I like the idea of a tree they could plant in their yard or the bench/brick idea.

I must also say, we have friends whose first child was born with similar issues (sorry don't know the name of the exact syndrome) and was expected to die within hours of birth. Funeral arrangements made, etc. Their son is now, amazingly, in his early 20's. They have written the books with the docs as they go along. I can only say it's an incredible testament to the Doc's and obviously the parents of this child that he is still here. It's been more than a challenge for them through the years but they have taken it all in stride. They now also have two other healthy children as well. Don't give up on this little angel yet!