My husband just doesnt understand
10-13-2011, 08:37 AM
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Originally Posted by LeslieFrost
Hmmmm... You didn't say what your husband did or said that brought on this funkish feeling now....
Anyway, since you have been doing this successfully so long, I think you should adopt an attitude of sailing right by him, confident that you are doing the right thing and ignoring his not understanding (so far as possible).
It seems to me that you need to take charge of the sewing studio that never got finished and get it fixed up. It is maybe too large a project for one person? Do you have a couple of girl friends who might be induced to come over for a day to help? You could bribe them with goodies! Put on some great music and just whale in there. Throw things away with abandon! Fill up the garage instead! Make yourself some room. Don't ask for hubby's help until absolutely necessary. Just do it.
Anyway, since you have been doing this successfully so long, I think you should adopt an attitude of sailing right by him, confident that you are doing the right thing and ignoring his not understanding (so far as possible).
It seems to me that you need to take charge of the sewing studio that never got finished and get it fixed up. It is maybe too large a project for one person? Do you have a couple of girl friends who might be induced to come over for a day to help? You could bribe them with goodies! Put on some great music and just whale in there. Throw things away with abandon! Fill up the garage instead! Make yourself some room. Don't ask for hubby's help until absolutely necessary. Just do it.
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10-13-2011, 08:41 AM
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don't feel required to have someone else validate you. You are the daughter of the most high King and that makes you a princess. You have talents and dreams. So some things go unfinished. We all have that. You are doing what you enjoy for a living and things get done when they get done.
10-13-2011, 08:47 AM
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I think he hopes I will just give up and forget about it. I have continually invested it the things I need to establish my studieo hoping he see how important it is to me. I guess I could by pass him up and do it my self. I love him and dont want him to feel disrespected. But I am ready to move on or out is that to drastic. I have even suggested buying a cheep building. where I could creat and run a boothing business. So the ladies could come in and rent space to have there dream mini antique shop. And wouldnt we all love to do that. So seriouly feeling traped.
10-13-2011, 08:48 AM
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Being that the custom sewing is your job/business, then it's also part of that business for you to finish the room that was intended for it. Just.Do.It!
Yes, there is another problem ... it has been used for sometime for other than for your business. And it appears that it's been for more than storage ... you mentioned a flat screen, and his watching TV. Looks like he has changed this into his man-cave.
Take hold ... and start emptying the stuff, and converting it back to your Business Location!
Yes, there is another problem ... it has been used for sometime for other than for your business. And it appears that it's been for more than storage ... you mentioned a flat screen, and his watching TV. Looks like he has changed this into his man-cave.
Take hold ... and start emptying the stuff, and converting it back to your Business Location!
10-13-2011, 08:53 AM
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If we don't value ourselves why would anyone else value us? (hope that made sense). If this is important to you, then you have to take control of the situation with or without his approval/validation. It's what you do for a living and what you love to do. That's all that should matter. After 10 years, you have given him reason to assume you no longer need that space. Time for a serious discussion. Make a list of what needs done, why it needs done, and set a time line or deadline. No threats, just honest discussion. Then if it's not completed in that time frame, have another discussion, then hire out the job. I wish you good luck with this; I don't know your family dynamic but my DH doesn't "see" what needs done; I firmly but kindly point them out. Maybe your DH just needs a reminder of what needs to be done to finish this project.
10-13-2011, 08:54 AM
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No idea where you live so not sure of the urgency if weather is a factor to completing your sewing room. But it certainly would not hurt to get an estimate or two to what it would cost to have someone come in to do it. (It may be cheaper than you think.) Also, you said it was full of "junk." What kind of junk? Junk that would make a good yard sale? Or junk there is no way you can get rid of it and may be appropriate to rent a storage unit. So you may want to get an estimate of a local storage unit close by or maybe invest in one of those little storage sheds to have in the back yard.
My husband was never very supportive of my sewing, crocheting, etc hobbies until I asked him what he wanted me to do. Was I suppose to sit still and just watch TV with him? I need to keep busy. If I am watching TV, usually I have clothes washing, dishes washing, sewing something or on my computer. Just sitting is very hard on me. He cannot understand that I can watch TV and read a book.
They have different ideas what we need and enjoy. Some men are extremely supportive, others just shake their heads. We have been married 38 years and when my eldest moved into her own home I took over the room as my sewing room. He has the front room for his drum room. You just find a happy medium.
My husband was never very supportive of my sewing, crocheting, etc hobbies until I asked him what he wanted me to do. Was I suppose to sit still and just watch TV with him? I need to keep busy. If I am watching TV, usually I have clothes washing, dishes washing, sewing something or on my computer. Just sitting is very hard on me. He cannot understand that I can watch TV and read a book.
They have different ideas what we need and enjoy. Some men are extremely supportive, others just shake their heads. We have been married 38 years and when my eldest moved into her own home I took over the room as my sewing room. He has the front room for his drum room. You just find a happy medium.
10-13-2011, 09:00 AM
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Originally Posted by Karen Powell
I think he hopes I will just give up and forget about it. I have continually invested it the things I need to establish my studieo hoping he see how important it is to me. I guess I could by pass him up and do it my self. I love him and dont want him to feel disrespected. But I am ready to move on or out is that to drastic. I have even suggested buying a cheep building. where I could creat and run a boothing business. So the ladies could come in and rent space to have there dream mini antique shop. And wouldnt we all love to do that. So seriouly feeling traped.
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