charity-crafter

My problem is my dh doesn't spend money on himself. He has no expensive hobbies, he's super frugal. When he bought his new bike he bought me one to. When he bought a new computer, he bought me one the following year. So it's hard for me to justify buying expensive toys for myself.

He's a gamer, and only plays the free ones on line. So I don't even have WoW to compare it to.

Dexx

For me its the opposite. My wife questions why I buy fabric. So I've been trying to let her pick things out with me online.

But once in a while something catches my eye, and I have to sneak a purchase in. In fact, today I'm "working from home" so I can get the mail with the new fabric before she sees it.

luvspaper

Looking at it from another angle....when the two of you were deciding on purchasing the LA, did you ever mention that you hope to make money from doing others quilts on it? Especially trying to justify why it was needed or could be used? If you did, it might have been that you put the bug in his ear.

DH and I each have "fun money" -- it generally works for our hobbies but something like a LA would have to come out of general savings/budget/credit.

wolph33

amen,us girls need toys also

Diecy

THANK YOU!!!!!!!! I like the line I'll help you start your business but I want my money back!!!! If I could count and have the money my husband has spent on his business (which went belly up by the way) I'd be rich!

arimuse

I don't justify anything, and if I want something bad enough and hubs seems to not be warm to the idea I just save up and buy it myself. (saving might mean he'll be eating cereal for dinner for a yr!)
Life is very short. All I do is ask myself: 1. do I really want it? (I never ask if I need things because when I go down that road well, really all I "need" is food and water!)2. Will I ever use it? (I have way too much "stuff" and I have to keep up w/ dusting around it!) 3. Can I afford it w/o making a debt? (I almost always buy things after saving up for all or most all of the cost of it.)

I did get him to buy a riding lawn mower several yrs ago. I did most of the lawn mowing/ raking. (I prefer outside to inside work!)I finally said no more, he could do it or hire it done. (we have close to an acre yard to mow, and I was pushing a mower.) Well, on 4th of July w/e he was going to mow, had trouble starting the mower, it was over 100% out, and after just the front he said, lets ride around town and look for someone for hire - well, the 4th after all -lol.
of course there was no one mowing!
we road right to the John Deere dealer and had a mower in the yard in an hr! Now, I hardly get a chance to mow - he loves his toy!! sharet

oh, my next big spend will be a complete new set of pots/pans, in stainless steel. He doesn't seem to understand the need of a pot having a lid that fits! All the stuff I have is mismatched every kind of cooking materials you can imagine. Some of mine, some of his wife's some from goodwill - I want one full real set of cookware cus I love to cook.

BellaBoo

I've never thought that DH is more deserving then I am to have material things. I love and respect my DH but his pedestal is not higher then mine.

Nanamoms

I was just going to suggest that "he" open a charter service and take people out fishing. HeHe!!

M E N!!!!!!!

gaevren

I don't have this issue. We both have some expensive hobbies, and he is perfectly aware that if he gets to spend money on his, I get to spend money on mine!

We actually encourage each other to do what we want which can be dangerous at times, lol.

But it's the same reason I encourage him to go out and do things without me when he wants to. I remember watching clingy jealous girlfriends who would get upset and mad if their boyfriends didn't include them in EVERYTHING they did, even a "guy's night out", but yet would expect their boyfriends to let them have a "girl's night" without the men! Double standard much?

He really likes the fact that I encourage him to do what makes him happy so he is happy to reciprocate :)

amyjo

Mine same way, only we live on farm. my off farm jobs help pay for diesel fuel and gas to cut, bale and feed the darn cows and horses on this farm. If he says anything, I just remind him that if he wants, he should start his own slush fund to pay for fuel and gas to feed his animals. He shuts up in a hurry. He knows that I don't spend money for junk or blow it to set out in the pasture like some of the stuff he has. He was surprised when he hauled a load of copper and radiators and other scrap down to the scrap yard at how much he got for it. I told him to get busy and get some more gone before someone else decides to come in sometime when we are gone and come back to a bunch missing. Have had stuff stolen here before. Can't seem to catch the thieves either.