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Bless your heart! Don't let it get you down. A tied quilt is a quilt. I have a friend that hand quilts and ties quilts. She won a blue rilbbon on a tied quilt at last year fair! I bind my quilts any way that I feel like! Rules for quilting are not set in concrete!
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your mother sounds like the ladies from my local "quilting group" who were snobby and didnt want to let a beginner in their elite group. Im am self teaching myself quilting and thanks to these ladies(and gentlemen) Im learning more every day..:)
Originally Posted by Airwick156
I am doing binding on my quilt. There is enough of the backing fabric that I can just fold it over on all sides and hand sew it for the binding. My mother just called me and asked what I was doing and I told her that I was doing the binding on my quilt. And she proceeded to say "How are you doing it? You cheating and just folding it over or did you make real binding for it?" in just her normal mean voice she uses with me whenever she talks to me. I told her I just folded it over, no need to waste the fabric when its already there. And I can't afford to buy the extra fabric. So I use what I am able to use. I see no problem with this but she sure does and definitely makes me will aware of that fact.
When I make a quilt, I complete the whole thing before I go onto the next one. I do have a few quilt tops, mostly lap quilts that I have not gotten the backing on. Now she has probably a hundred if not more Tops that will never get done as she only likes to make the tops. But yet she complains and tells me how to do my quilts. Most of the time I can remind myself to just "rise above it" and "this too shall pass" attitude, but this time it seems to have really upset me. Because not only did she say that she also told me that I was wasting all my time making quilts since I don't have the money to get them machine quilted. I tie all of them, but one day, I am going to be able to get one machine quilted. I don't think I am wasting my time not at all. I enjoy making them even though I am not very good at it, but I am learning maybe slowly but I am learning. Okay...that said..."this too shall pass" finally kicked in and now I'm waiting for "Rise above it". Maybe if I fix me a cup of hot tea that will help. LOL :) Thanks for letting me vent. |
God bless you and give you strength to hit the "rise above" button! I have folded over for binding. They look fine. Keep on keeping on girl.
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Saying a prayer for your mother to be more considerate and helpful. You can do your quilt anyway you like. I have done them that way and used the machine to do some of them to make sure the stitches held. God bless you.
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Just calmly say "yes, Mother". Any time and anything, just say "yes, Mother". If it comes back, don't be a snot--"yes Mother. Its hard to argue etc with someone who is agreeing with them. Hopefully eventually she will get the message. Ignore her criticisms and do it your way. Be the bigger person and just ignore what she complains about, many people still tie their quilts. Bringing backing over to the front is a perfectly acceptable way to finish. Besides they are your quilts, and I suspect she may be jealous because yours are actually better than hers. Just hang in there, be positive and ignore the complaints. I suspect she senses she is loosing power over you and resents that.
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Do it all the time. It makes a nice lead in to a pretty backing. I especially do it for charity quilts as it takes less time so I can start another quilt! Sometime try using your domestic machiune to stitch in the ditch around blocks--it holds it all together well and it is quilting.
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Please do not let your Mother make you feel bad. There are no rules to quilting, except "enjoy the process"!
My Mother was just like your Mother. She constantly found fault with most everything I did. She wasn't happy until she was making me miserable. For my own piece of mind, and that of my husband and daughters, I had to limit my contact with her. You have to be your own person and be happy with yourself. If your mother can't be happy with you then she is missing out on a wonderful relationship. I know my mother did. |
I have learned the hard way over the years that the people that put down others do so to feel better about themsevles because if they can put you down then they are better than you.
I often fold my backing over just because it is quick and easy. When I learned to quilt my granny taught me to tie. I did that a long time before I learned to machine quilt. You just keep enjoying yourself. |
Originally Posted by shawnemily
There are no rules! It is your creation and you can make it any way you want!
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Your mother sounds like my mother, never a conversation that she did not make a mean comment about me. She is NOT the quilt police. Enjoy your work! We don't all make our quilts the same way or for quilt shows only ! They are made to be used and loved. Diane C.
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