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Originally Posted by Lv2sew2011
Well, after a friend of 17 years just stop having anything to do with me, I refused to be hurt like that ever again, so now I keep my distance. I won't let people get close to me. So all I have now is my computer, quilting, and other crafts. My sons hardly ever call me or visit. So I guess Internet friends is all I have in my life at this time.
To this day, I have no ideal why my friend stop having anything to do with me, I ask her if I had offended her and she said no, that I had done nothing, but I must of did something to hurt her and she never gave me a chance to say I'm sorry. After 3 years trying and crying to find out what I did, I just gave up. At that time I had loss a lot of weight and became much smaller than her, but if she could only see me now, I've just about put it all back on from depression. I've told people about this and they seem to think the weight loss might be the reason she quit having anything to do with me, I just don't know... But to this day my heart aches, no more close friends for me thank you! So with that said, I guess I am a loner and just trying to find something to do to fill the void... :-( So Sorry for your loss, I know what it's like to loose a sister, I lost my sister to drowning in 2009 she was my only sibling... My problem is none of my friends live near by. I moved to Az from CA and we live in the middle of no where, so I have to go a distance to meet friends. I have made some new friends here, I just don't get to see them much! |
yes i am a loner also.
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Sorry for your loss, but the main thing is that she was happy.
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i guess i am a loner by nature. but right now i'm away from home and family. working in nc 500 miles from home. just me and my 13 yo son. we're in a tiny camper but i had to bring my machine. sewing is mostly calming for me. i quit when it isn't. i'm just glad the board is here with all you wonderful people. helps with the lonliness.
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DonnaJean, I am truly sorry about your sister. You have been doing a sweet thing by helping others by sending out her books, etc. Mama will be gone three years this coming May 10th. She passed on Mother's Day. I am the oldest living person in her direct blood line. Only have two of Daddy's sisters living older than I am in his direct blood line.
RE: being a loner... Considering that I am disabled in a wheel chair, I seldom get out of my home in the cold weather. So yes, I guess I have become pretty much a loner except for m y dear husband and my aide.... About all I do now is hand stitching the old fashioned needle and thread way. I also do family genealogy... |
I am still the same loner that I have always been. Before quilting I had other indoors hobbies, so can't blame that on quilting. I happen to like myself (which is good, because wherever I go - there I am!) My hubby is a loner in his own right, and we both have few but dear friends. No problems here.
Sorry you lost your sister. |
I have never been so involved in my local area has I have since I have quilted , I teach a litle and have meet some of the most wonderful "older " ladies I would have never talked to before , they re so giving and have such funny life stories to tell . Cathy
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so sorry about the loss of your sister. Quilting has brought more people into my life than I had before. I have been a loner all of my life, but I do love and enjoy people.
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I was a loner before I started quilting. I've never followed or lived by the opinions of others as I have my own life to lead and if I generally try to work toward the common good, quilting is a good way to get you involved with others. I have become more sociable and attend more meetings and get invited to more functions than I ever did before I started quilting. It is a great socialiser and ice - breaker.
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"This was pre-internet times & quilting became such an obsession that all she did was quilt & work"
I think this could be true of many hobbies... my ex was a "ham" radio operator.. he would be up about 5a...work from 8a to11:30 home for lunch than back to work at 1p and home by 4:30...rest of the time was on the radio.. Didn't go to bed till about 11ish and sometimes later.. I would often wake up during the night and he would be on the radio again..he had trouble taking the trash out... should have left him long ago. Any hobby can become an obsession and the internet and boards like this one can easily become one. The thing that bother's me to is the lack of exercise and weight gain of so many of us quilter's...I am right there with them and I am worried that the older I get the harder it is to lose. |
Originally Posted by donnajean
I was just responding to another posted topic about how much is too much stash. My sister died in 2001 with a 5 bedroom house as well as storage facilities filled with anything relating to quilting. Her "when I retire I will open a quilt shop" never happened as she lost her battle with colon cancer. This was pre-internet times & quilting became such an obsession that all she did was quilt & work. She became isolated from any local friends. I don't know if this would still be true if she had gotten involved with the internet connections we have today. I have met & helped so many quilters as I send her 2,500 quilt books all over the world. Sites like this QB are a blessing for the many people like my sister who do not get out & about.
This board is wonderful and no one who joins need ever be lonely again! You can talk to so many people, about your favorite pastime, all day or night! Too bad your sister didn't live to find the great camaraderie we have here... |
The best part of my quilting habit, is that when I do get out and about, there is always something to share with others. I don't drive, so I am not as outgoing as I used to be. I enjoy my company too, so I am not a loner, just happy with my life. It is almost what I want it to be. :thumbup:
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Sorry about your sister. I am more of a loner at times. I go to sew at a quilt shop with a couple of other ladies on Tuesdays and go to a sewing evening once a month. It gets me out of the house and talking to other quilters. I think quilting can make you a hermit just because you want to stay home and quilt.
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Sorry to hear about your loss, but just think of all the persons she has touch with her things, she is lonely no more.
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I am very much a loner not by choice but circumstances. I just do not know anyone near where I have lived the last 3 years, I got tired of going shopping with no purpose in mind and found I was buying just to fill in my loneleness so I started going to stores like jo anns then to quilting stores, I do not feel so alone now because I get on this board everyday and have my quilts to keep me busy.
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I was a loner before I started quilting. I always had a nite job, or did 12 hour shifts as a home health aide. Never really had any girlfriends, raised my 3 kids by myself. Now there gone and out of the house. Ran into a school teacher that I knew at Hancocks, and started kinda quilt group at my house, just the two of us. Then we found a free quilt group and have been doing that now for 2 years. What a difference. Moved into a new nieghborhood last year started sewing out side, All my nieghbors came over to see what I was doing. Made friends with everyone on the block. How cool is that. I live in a cul-de-sac, and is very quiet here.
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Very sorry about your sister HUGS.................
l have always been very content with my own company as l have had a very busy life work related. l couldn't seem to settle down to retirement till l met a quilter who started me off into the quilting world now l am in two groups l have just finished a weekend having a quilt show with my main group which was very tireing but great l have lots of friends who came in to see what l was doing now and made a lot of new ones as l was deminstrating machine embroidery and being a white glove lady which gave me time to chat good luck to those quilters l think quilters are family and easy to talk to. HAPPY QUILTING WHERE EVER YOU ARE IN THE WORLD |
I guess I can say that I am a loner here. When I go up to CT - my friends and I always get together. I have a few acquintances here - we don't get together often anymore - we go out for lunch occasionally. All the social gatherings or groups have not continued. So I spend most of my time w/DH, quilting, alone or more enjoyably on this board - so I do keep myself busy.
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I'm retired and have health problems. So I'm home more, which is great because I can quilt. I do miss my family. Lately we found Skype. It's a free web site that allows my daughter and her family in Texas to talk to me in Connecticut, and we can see each other FOR FREE!! All you need is an internet connection and webcam. So all of you who are far from loved ones, try it. I paid $70 for my webcam (not on sale.) Save your pennies for one. It will open your world like this board has. I'm not affilated with Skype. I think it's important to have a circle of friends. If you are home bound, Skype might be one answer.
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I am so sorry about the loss of your sister. I have never been a loner and quilting hasn't changed that. One day a friend from church asked if I would teach her to quilt. I said sure, bring your machine to my house and I will teach you. Next day she called again and said she had mentioned it to so-and-so and would I teach her, too. I said fine, she can bring her machine, too. A few days later I got an email saying there were 15 who wanted lessons, then 20, then an announcement was made at church (without consulting me) that there would be a quilt class for the 25+ women who had expressed interest! So that's how I began to teach twice a month at the church (I don't have enough outlets in my house). Guess who has yet to attend a class?
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I for one have never had lots of friends, only a handful of trusted people that I trust so I suppose I have always been a loner. At this time it is a good thing we have the internet since the price of gas is going to make it ever more difficult to get out and drive places.
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I think my quilting has made me less of a loner although 99% of my quilting is done alone since my "quilting buddy" passed. But I have lots of internet friends that quilt and we exchange patterns, BOMs, fabrics, ideas, recipes, other craft ideas, secret sister swaps, whatever we can think up to do. I think of my quilting time as "my" time - a time to be alone; relax; create something for me, someone in the family, friends, or a quilt to donate; listen to my movies and/or music. We live a fairly active life - involved in karaoke and music, bicycle riding, motorcycling, hiking, kayaking, line dancing, etc. - so I enjoy my quiet quilty time.
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I'm so sorry about the loss of your sister. It's that special link that is lost when such a close part of you is lost.
I have always been a loner, even more now that I quilt. Is it really wrong of me, I don't think so because now I really enjoy myself. Luckily I have the QB to fall back on, and I have met one good friend. Not to mention so many good tips. |
I have a spiral problem and don't like going places anymore. thanks to internet which opened a new world to me
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Being an only child, I am naturally somewhat of a loner; however, since becoming a quilter, I have joined a guild, re-met some old friends and made lots of new friends. I think that quilting can be what you make of it....if you want to be alone you can do that; if you want to be with a group, you can be in a guild or a class.
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I am truly sorry you lost your sister. I have 3 sisters and I don't know what I would do if I lost one.
I have worked out in the public eye for the last 40 years and retired in May of 2010. I love being a "loner". This is all I want to do, even if I don't do it correctly all the time. I'm not as talented as most quilters but my kids and grandkids love my quilts and that is all that really matters. |
Originally Posted by madamekelly
The best part of my quilting habit, is that when I do get out and about, there is always something to share with others. I don't drive, so I am not as outgoing as I used to be. I enjoy my company too, so I am not a loner, just happy with my life. It is almost what I want it to be. :thumbup:
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I was always a homebody, however worked with people all my life. DH was a OTR driver, so I was home with our son. Then it was with the dog, by the way I talk dog. Then taking care of my mom, deaf, blind and bad heart with full blown Altizmers. At the same time taking care of DH after stroke, I feel I need all the time in the world to enjoy a bit of my retirement and doing what I love. Sorry this is so long. Guess just venting.
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I finally found some quilting friends so I think I am less of a loner now than (regarding quilting) because no one @ work did any quilting. It's a lot more fun with friends :lol: :thumbup:
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Originally Posted by Lv2sew2011
Well, after a friend of 17 years just stop having anything to do with me, I refused to be hurt like that ever again, so now I keep my distance.
I like to quilt because I can do it by myself and be happy |
I have found the opposite. I belong to a quilting guild which has quilt weekends (going to one this weekend) plus lots of other gatherings. I also go to lots of classes and have a small group of friends and we meet at each others house once a fortnight. I go every second Wednesday to a quilt day at a local church plus belong to a monthly group which meets every Saturday.
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I love quilting!!! I find I am happy when I am quilting, but some of the best friends I have are because of my love for quilting... I am highly involved in our quilt club, and because of it I'm in a group of ladies who go on quilt retreats, get together for lunch once a month, and go on shop hops. Yes, these friends were made because I love quilting, but the friendships we have goes so much deeper.
Quilting can make you happy at home alone or with friends... Isn't it wonderful! |
Go for it at $2.00 a yard. Some may not be the best material but can be used on small projects, and keep the better quality for projects that will get more ware.
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sorry for your loss, but what an angel you are for helping others. ty for sharing
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I am a teacher too and I feel the same way. Can we all stop feeling guilty for being loners?
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No reason to feel guilty. Just look how many of us there are - a lot of like minds who just happen to be quilters.
Originally Posted by nisubaker
I am a teacher too and I feel the same way. Can we all stop feeling guilty for being loners?
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I have met so many wonderful people through quilting.
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I am sorry about your sister, my sister and I are very close, both quilt and sew. She works, I'm retired (6 yrs older than sis). I suffer an anxiety disorder and have always been a bit of a loner, although I was able to work and bring up my kids normally. It has always been a strain for me to socialise or even talk on the phone. I'm lucky my famiy and friends keep in touch and visit me, and grandkids always her and keep my mind young. I tried quilting groups but couldn't cope. I'm fine in familiar territory, but out of my comfort zone I feel very inadequate, even on this board I feel like I'm butting in sometimes, so I don't reply to a lot of things I'd like to. but I love it and love reading other members messages, and I am learning so much, so if you all don't mind keep I'll keep coming back. Maybe one day will have courage to "show & tell". Its a great Board, Luv U all, Jen
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Originally Posted by luvstitches
So sorry about your sister.
Yes, I've become a loner more so since becoming a quilter. It is addicting and lately it is all I want to do besides hang out on the quilting board. Me to!! And not getting my tops put together. |
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