That is exactly why when I plan a quilt as a gift, I discuss colors and pattern with the recipient. It took months for my daughter to choose a pattern, but when she spied a bargello she knew it was what she wanted. I would never think of making a gift quilt without doing some research first. It saves so many hurt feelings and will get you many hugs in return!

I don't foresee ever having the problem of someone giving me a quilt. That being said if it is was just blah, I would thank them for thinking of me. Then it would probably go in the group of quilts that I have made and stay there.

after saying "Thank you for your thoughfulness", I would not hide the thing, I'd donate it to some organization that would make good use of it, perhaps a women's shelter ...

Joyce,
Can you some how unsew it and add more colors to it? To make it something more to your style? Maybe alternating blocks?

I agree. Having been on the receiving end of gifts that were returned, I can tell you that it hurts no matter how tactfully it's done. Smile, say thank you and give an honest complement on color, fabric choices or the time and love that went into the quilt. I have a quilt on my bed right now that's not exactly what I was hoping for but I know the person who made it struggled with each stitch since she has severe arthritis. Seeing that quilt reminds me of the love she put into it.

Most of the quilts on our beds go under the bedspread, so now matter what they look like, they get used and keep us warm. I was taught that part of being gracious was to make a gift giver feel appreciated, so no matter what one truly thinks about a gift, the giver is thanked and you make a positive statement about the gift. Once it goes to my house I can do whatever is most convenient for me. I really don't think anyone ever gives a gift thinking "bet they will really hate this one" except maybe my dh who loves to buy the worst possible gift he can find for chinese gift exchanges. lol

There is always a way to use a quilt in one's decor, regardless of pattern or color. However, when I give a quilt as a gift I always include a note that if it isn't to their taste, they may return it or drop it off at the local animal shelter and I'll replace it with something they will like.

It's never happened yet, but I put it right out there.

I would thank the person who made it and probably keep it on the bed in the spare room; I love hand made gifts and appreciate the effort and time that someone spent in "thinking" of me.

My step son (who lives with us) has burned holes in my sheets and comforters, and has never washed his bedding for the year he has been here. When we move (no HE IS NOT moving with us I draw the line here) I will keep that bedding to put on the bed if/when he spends the night. I would not even put a quilt that I did not like on the spare bed when he is there. At 28 there is no excuse!!!!!

That is a great idea because I fear that one of the quilts I have made will get thrown out. I have found a few at goodwill or salvation army and it makes me sad.

I agree. I have only gifted a few quilts but in general when giving gifts, I tell people if they don't like it to feel free to share it with someone who does or pass it along. I firmly believe that each and every gift that is given has a recipient - it just isn't always the first person we give the gift to!!

I also agree with the lady who said she researches. I look at people's interiors for colors, see what colors they wear most commonly, do they have a favorite handbag or something. I also look for clues in their homes, are they traditional, contemporary, minimal or do they like clutter? These all give you clues that you can use.

Here is another piece of food for thought... How many times have we read messages on the board here posted by happy quilters who have wandered into a local thrift store or yard sale only to find a lovely quilt that they snapped up for a bargain and took home to love??? Someone above mentioned that they feel sad when they find quilts at thrift stores, but I see it as an opportunity for a hand-crafted item to find a home with someone who will love it and appreciate it in a way the original recipient did not. A quilt that finds it way to a loving home is a happy quilt, regardless of where that home may be. :)

I always would say thank you and make a complement about the gift. Quilts are always useful, even if it is not a quilt I will choose to display in an obvious place of pride in my home (and no, I have never lined a dog bed with one!!!)