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No, you weren't being stupid. That was just you doing the right thing. Be sure she knows that you'd love to have it if at some future time, she's really sure she doesn't want it any more but encourage her to use it.
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Tell her that you wouldn't mind her leaving it to you in her will, but she should really try using it herself, first. That way, you've let her know that you're really interested, without asking for it right now. Then, if she decides after a month or two of not using it, that she really wants to get rid of it, you're definitely the one it should go to.
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I think you should call her back and tell her you would love to have it if she really wants to get rid of it. Like was mentioned before if she wants to get rid of it she will, to you or someone else. You might as well have it.
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I talked to hubby and he was priced at me for even considering taking it. But that is because he doesn't understand quitting. And to add to the problem it is a step-grandma. She is a very wonderful women. I love her, she fits my personality. When we were last in California to visit hubbys family they came down for a visit and we hit a quilt shop. I asked grandma to make my dd a quilt and hubbys family about flipped that I had asked grandma to make a quilt. So it doesn't surprise me that he said no to the Long arm from grandma. But I think that I will call her and tell her that if she still wants to send it to me after Christmas time that I would be happy to babysitter it for her. I would fly out there and get it but that is too expensive for us.
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Originally Posted by donnajean
I think grandma deserves a visit & if she really wants to give/loan it to you, you can bring it home with you.
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Originally Posted by TonnieLoree
Why don't you call G-ma IL and ask her if she was still considering getting rid of the LA. Could you at least offer to pay her for the shipping? No you wern't stupid, you were just being considerate.
Grandmother-in-law - - - hmm, that is a new term to my vocabulary today, but it has a nice ring to it. Marysewfun |
Grandma could gift you the quilting machine and you in return could offer to do her quilts that she needs quilted. So, everyone wins. Contact some different places to see what shipping will cost and offer to pay to have it shipped. Some people do not like to do the quilting part, I know because some of my best customers love to make tops but do not like the quilting part. Maybe she if like that.
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I would have finished the conversation cranking my truck on the way to her house. LOL
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I agree with covering shipping and quilting her quilts for her.
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Maybe you could visit and help her learn to use it. She may not be using it because she is not sure she is doing it correctly. Then if she says something like " I will never be able to do this" you can say you would love it and consider it an honor to have it.
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I would have ask when she was sending it. Yes she should use it but she is not and therefore it would get use with you. I think I would offer to pay the shipping on it.
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Originally Posted by BellaBoo
Now she probably thinks you were telling her very politely you don't want it so don't be surprised if she gives it to someone else.
If it was vice-versa and you offered her something you really wanted her to have -- wouldn't it feel great if she accepted the gift? |
She might believe that you really don't want it and she just might give it to someone else. Better give her a call.
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Originally Posted by sueisallaboutquilts
I think it was really sweet of you to encourage her to use it.
Why not tell her that if she really finds she doesn't use it you'll take it, or buy it or whatever. But wow, I know what you mean!!!!!!! :) |
I would have said "Thank You!
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I would just call her and and tell her that now that she has had some time to think more about it, you do want the quilter, you wer just letting her be sure.
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I would call her back and let her know that her offer is very generous and you would be thrilled to adopt her longarm and would pay the shipping.
Explain to her that you want her to be sure about giving it to you, but that you would love to have it. If she ends up sending it to you, perhaps you could make her a nice quilt as a thank you. |
Far from being "stupid," about an offer for a LA you have shown consideration for the owner. Re-read all these thoughtful suggestions, then call her!!!
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Get in touch with Granny and see if the offer still holds. Tellher you were overwhelmed and just blurted out the first thing that came to mind. Offer to at least pay shipping. In reality, you will problably inherit it anyway. Better she should see you enjoy it....
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I agree, offer to pay shipping and send a wonderful thank you note!!!
Originally Posted by TonnieLoree
Why don't you call G-ma IL and ask her if she was still considering getting rid of the LA. Could you at least offer to pay her for the shipping? No you wern't stupid, you were just being considerate.
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Offer to do some quilts for her in return.
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I would say THANK YOU, THANK YOU, THANK YOU, THANK YOU & ... You were very considerate. It is so hard now a days to find people like that, it seems everybody is out for #1. It is very very sad. You are a wonderful granddaughter in law. I wish my grandma was still here with us and that she quilted. She was a sewer. I would make sure that her giving it to you is really what she wants. Then I would accept her WONDERFUL GIFT WITH grace, diginity and appreciation. Then when it's home I would be doing the HAPPY DANCE, for the next year at the very least. :lol: :lol: :lol: ;););)
Have a blessed day. (For you & your grandma in law). :lol: debra :lol: |
I would have said "I'll meet you half way" I have one and love it.
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yep - i would have offered to pay shipping!!!!
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I would call her back and thank her so much for the offer. You would be glad to take it, if she is not going to use it. You were just in such shock you answered too quickly
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Originally Posted by sahm4605
I have been working hard on making a few quilts lately and being in the KC area we have been getting lots of storms. well after the last round of storms around Thursday i think my grandma in law called to check up on us. I got to talking with her and last summer she had bought a long arm. well she is more into making quilts with embroidery and the keep sake type of quilts right now and has only long armed maybe two or three quilts. she said that she was thinking of just dismantling the long arm and shipping it to me. I about wet myself when she said that. I like the dolt that I am told her that she should really get to using it to me. I would love to have a long arm but she should use it right? I really wish that I had told her to go ahead and send it to me but I would feel really really bad taking it. especially with her not using it really and spending a lot of money on it.
what would you guys have said or done? was I really really stupid for telling her to just hold on to it? |
I agree , that way its still in the family
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