I was recently honored by a friend who asked me to make a quilt for his mother who has dementia and is in failing health, I asked his mother's name so I could use it in the label (made for), then he thought why not include everyone's name in the quilt, I suggested perhaps a family photo, well, there would have been 22 photos with all the sibs, and offspring, we finally settled on just a photo of sibs as children, (center block), now he wants all the siblings names on the label (as from), here's the delicate issue, he had a brother that passed away when he was only 13 years old, do I include his name in the label, do I leave his name out, I need your valuable advice as I'm clueless how to handle this. Would it be better to just put made for, made by, 2010 on the label and have him enclose a card with all the siblings names? Thank you in advance for all your help.
It's a lap quilt approximately 56x68.

TERRYL

I think you should be asking him this question. if it were my decision I would say tell him to include a card and he can put from whoever he wants to on it.

You could say from: list all of the siblings names, and then the other brothers name, who is watching over them from heaven... or something like that.

If i'm understanding you correctly, you've wanting to put their names on the quilt? With their pics? I would say include the deceased brother. If she has dementia, she may remember her son at the age in the picture, not that he died.
BUT the best person to ask is the one that asked you to make the quilt.

No, I don't want to put the names on the quilt, the quilt top is done, except for the borders, I'm asking about including the brothers name in the label.

I agree with asking...but I'd probably opt for a line like "with loving memories of xxxxx." I lost my youngest sister five years ago and I think I would like that.

My brother passed away 2 years ago. I still cry almost everyday. If it was me, I would say add his name. I would want it on there, if it wasn't there I would feel like he was left out. He is still apart of the family, he just lives in Heaven now.

My oldest brother died almost 3 years ago, and I would absolutely devastated if one of the family had a quilt made with all of our names on it but left out his. He was a part of our family for 65 years and we still miss him and always will.

I would ask first. And with dementia, mother might not even remember ( but mine did). She just never remembered me at this present age.......she used to have a puzzled look on her face when I asked her what my name was. I would tell her my name and she'd retort most adamantly, "not!!!" So they do remember but the memory can be stuck in yesteryear.

I'd do it as suggested - it might be a nice touch for her. I would run it by your friend first. Would there be any way you could add it on last?

Ask him.
He is the "customer," and what he wants goes.

I'd ask your friend. Me personally? I think I'd be upset if the name was left out. Alive or dead, my child is my child, and a part of the family. I like "In loving memories of xxxx."

i think what ever names he gave you to be included should be included.

My son passed away but I still include his name on many things. You will never insult the receiver, hearing and seeing a lost loved ones name is music to their eyes. You could put something like , Nick (from heaven), or Nick (our guardian angel)

When you list the names, could you put some angel wings next to the deceased name?

I'll try to make the angel wings, thank you everyone, when the label is made it will say, "made for_____ made by_____ given by____ (all siblings), 2010.

I agree that first check with your friend.. but I would include ALL of the children... even with demintia and the confusion of time... there are some things that are not forgotten. My bff of 48 years lost her brother to a drunk driver running into their yard and killing him. That was in 1966... there are still times when she mentions him.