I aim at getting all the seams flat and points matching. But I don't stress over it if I have done my best. We need that small seam, in garments its bigger, to hold everything in place.Like Genden said we need our underwear to hold everything in, likewise we need that tiny seam.

I've never thought about this except to make sure that I can get my seams to match when putting the quilt together. It doesn't bother me that the inside isn't seen. I think most people (even non quilters) look at a finished quilt and can see if it is not well constructed as some errors will show up on the right side of the quilt. My seams may not be a perfect 1/4" or my seam pressing may be off a little, but as long as the outside looks nice and I know the quilt will not fall apart with lots of washing, I'm happy. Besides, even judges don't look at the inside. Ha.

The same could be said of the batting and a lot of the thread used to put it all together.

Maybe just change how you 'see' what is not seen. Kind of like 'life' - some of the most important things are hidden or invisible.

Maybe you should do a little raw edge applique for a change. No seams to fret over there.

...this is not the hill you want to die on........

That's why I make scant 1/4 inch seams (or less).

That little seam of unseen fabric allows you to see the larger over all beauty of the fabric.

LOL Geri B... I'm going to have to remember that one!

This whole question, and all of the earnest replies, just cracks me up. Is somebody pulling our leg?

I'm pretty much a fabric waster and don't even save small scraps. So, no, I've never thought about the fabric in the seam allowances! My mother told me I would marry a rich man because of the waste when I peeled potatoes. I guess it's carried over to my quilting too!

I think the point is well said by several others. Even though it is "behind the scenes" it's job is essential as we couldn't make a quilt without its being there. Perhaps try saying a little thank you to the fabric that does so much for us and gets no glory.
My seams get no glory but they get a lot of my attention, smiles. Even with my quarter inch seam foot, I still tend to wander a bit, especially when my muscles get tense and my shoulders are up around my ears. I have to keep checking that I haven't let the bottom fabric slip away and that my seams are consistent. There are times when I am happy to have my seams not showing!!!
No, my seams don't get to be seen once the quilt is done, but they don't feel ignored until then. LOL