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Originally Posted by Momsmurf
{But now every time we talk she'll say "the way you do "X" (insert technique) is wrong. I learned in my class that you're supposed to do it this way". Oy. :hunf: }
Oh boy, oh boy do I completely understand where you are coming from. A friend who was in nursing school actually told me that what I had learned in my nursing school days (a three year hospital based school compared to her community college classes) was WRONG...not outdated as I had suggested....BUT WRONG! Yeah - right. May I die at home. I like your approach and I would find ways to minimize encounters. I suppose we must forgive her insecurity. :roll: I just turn into a parrot and keep saying "I'll take it under advisement" in a blah voice. Next thing she says. ....."I'll take it under advisement" Once she finds she can't rile you, she'll keep it to herself. |
Originally Posted by deema
BUT, this one friend decided to take a class (more power to her) and she's decided the the things she's learned in this class are the "right" way to quilt. But now every time we talk she'll say "the way you do "X" (insert technique) is wrong. I learned in my class that you're supposed to do it this way". Oy. :hunf:
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Originally Posted by tjradj
Originally Posted by Momsmurf
{But now every time we talk she'll say "the way you do "X" (insert technique) is wrong. I learned in my class that you're supposed to do it this way". Oy. :hunf: }
Oh boy, oh boy do I completely understand where you are coming from. A friend who was in nursing school actually told me that what I had learned in my nursing school days (a three year hospital based school compared to her community college classes) was WRONG...not outdated as I had suggested....BUT WRONG! Yeah - right. May I die at home. I like your approach and I would find ways to minimize encounters. I suppose we must forgive her insecurity. :roll: I just turn into a parrot and keep saying "I'll take it under advisement" in a blah voice. Next thing she says. ....."I'll take it under advisement" Once she finds she can't rile you, she'll keep it to herself. When we first met, I made it a point to tell her that with me, what you see is what you get...and believe me...she got it. Solution: take a deep breath, smile and keep them wondering! |
I remember when I was in Medical Technology school. As students, we were partnered with more experienced technologists at the benches who were performing clinical tests. By the time we finished the rotation, we would learn each technologist's way of doing something. The thing I try to remember is that the results are the same and only the method of work organization is differnet. Luckily, there are few labzillas although I have met quite a few quiltzillas.
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Originally Posted by PKITTY1
I remember when I was in Medical Technology school. As students, we were partnered with more experienced technologists at the benches who were performing clinical tests. By the time we finished the rotation, we would learn each technologist's way of doing something. The thing I try to remember is that the results are the same and only the method of work organization is differnet. Luckily, there are few labzillas although I have met quite a few quiltzillas.
much like quilting...from hand made templates to die cut products.... sissors replaced by rotary cutters and sewing machines making the piecing faster for the less traditional and patient quilter.... :thumbup: :thumbup: :-P :-P :thumbup: |
Originally Posted by raptureready
One up her. Just say, "I belong to a quilting board that has everyone from newbies, like US, to people that have been quilting for over 50 years. The group I'm in has quilters that have made quilts that are displayed in museums around the world and have won blue ribbons in world wide competitions. They've been wonderful at offering advice and helping me and the one thing that they're most adamant about is that there's no "right" or "wrong" way. It's supposed to be "whatever works" for the person doing the creating. If the instructor in your class said that there's right ways and wrong ways then he or she needs to broaden his/her horizons."
I guess I must be pretty scary because people don't usually offer me advice unless I ask for it. |
Originally Posted by deema
I am a newbie quilter. I only started late August 2010. I'm pretty much self taught, with the help of this board (HUGE help) and numerous hours spent surfing the web. lol. I have a friend who was inspired to start quilting after I did, which is GREAT! I actually have inspired a few of my friends to start - the more the merrier - and I always help them out where I can. Being a newbie myself, I don't always have the answers, but I try to find them. BUT, this one friend decided to take a class (more power to her) and she's decided the the things she's learned in this class are the "right" way to quilt. Now, I'm all for learning different techniques, finding what works best for you and running with it, and I always try to offer more than one alternative when a question is asked of me. But now every time we talk she'll say "the way you do "X" (insert technique) is wrong. I learned in my class that you're supposed to do it this way". Oy. :hunf:
I always respond with "This is just what I prefer, and what works for me. There are no hard rules, just preferences." But jeepers, it just grinds me. *sigh* Ok, I'm done now. Do any of you have a quilt police officer in your midst? |
I've read right the way through this - what happened to the "baby chick"?? I hope all you mother hens were able to dry up the tears and give her her confidence back.
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I hear yah, kiddo, I feel your pain. One of my best friends is a quilt cop. I'm a newbie and a non-conformist from the word "go". Now, both of us belong to a writing group. She paid a bunch of bucks to learn "the right way to write". I think she's limiting herself by sticking to the right way...writing and quilting. After all, I've learned a lot my taking the "wrong" path. As I write this, I just realized that some of us a risk takers who enjoy life's mistakes. She's not one of those. What does a good friend do? Sit patiently and wait for her to go back to tending her own affairs...without a reply unless she asks for one...then, RUN!
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