You WILL want them later. Could you have her box them lovingly up and just collect them (unopened) and store them at your home somewhere until you want to look at them again? You will be sorry if you let them go.

I would display it, either laying folded, draped or hanging on a wall. Also I agree it is your quilt now so do with it as you think it is right. To be honest I would feel weird getting a quilt from some one I was engaged with 30 years ago so I would not give it to the woman he was about to marry then.

I'm late in responding, but I think you should at least keep them in the family.
I'm sorry for your loss.
I crocheted an afghan for my Grandfather when he was in a nursing home. I asked to have it returned upon his passing, but never got it. I'm sure another senior appreciated having it, so I am not harboring bad feelings, but I would have liked to have kept it in the family.

Marmie, I am so sorry about the loss of your Mother. Be gentle with yourself. You don't have to make a decision now give yourself time. You can safely store them away in the mean time.

After my Dad passed whenever I opened the closet where I had his clothes (when looking for something else) I'd see his clothes and stand there crying. My husband was kind enough to move the clothes for me to another closet. Some clothes we did donate to charity because I know Dad would have wanted that. But I kept his shirts in hopes of making a quilt from them. Now when I look at his shirts it bring me comfort and I know I'll be able to make a quilt from his shirts.

I had some of my Grandmother's clothes sent to me when she passed in 1998. Lately I've been thinking I'm ready to work on them. I've decided instead of one lap quilt I'd make a few quilted removable pillow covers that could be used as wall hangings if desired, since I'm sharing two of them with my cousins. I'm glad I asked for her items even though it was hard to receive them initially. There's a time and place for everything it seems.