You should carry a small album of your quilts with you when you go to fabric stores. And when people say something, pull it out and say, here let me show you some of my hand stitched quilts!!!!
That should shut them up!!

fried green tomatoes remember when kathy bates hit the car over and over because the two younger gals took her parking spot after waiting for it?It's called disrespect and that's the way its done girls.

Amen, rapture ready! Don't let anyone get away with 'talking down' to you or anyone you are with. You would think adults would be over their high school hang ups!!

Oh I'm sorry that happened to you...I just hate rude people! I usually just turn to them, smile sweetly and say "Pardon me?????, did you say something to me??" They are usually too embarrassed to repeat it, but if they do, then my next response is "why would you say something like that?" They are usually ready to get away at that point.

I really hope your next museum experience will be much better..

Shame on that rude person, won't dignify her behavior by calling her a lady. She lost out on the opportunity of talking "quilt" with a young person. The younger quilters can bring a fresh view of the art. The old Bat lost out.

This comment is slightly away from the topic, momski. When I see a quilter with small children, my only thoughts are of how I wish that I began to quilt before age 45. I am positive that I would have been a more contented mom (three sons in four years), with such a great hobby to do in any "me" moments. Plus, I could have taken portable projects to all their hours of sports practices, etc. At our last quilt show, I did express these thoughts to two moms with strollers. I think they thought I was an outspoken 50 something lady too!! :(

Ahhhh----like a voodoo doll---everytime you stick a pin in, may she yell ouch. Thank goodness most quilters are friendly folks who love to share smiles and kind words.

Well I have read this entire chat and boy has it brought back memories for me. My darling daughter loved to fiddle and play with fabric from an early age. We used to live in an isolated part of the Northern Territory in Australia and one year a patchwork tutor came to our little town to run classes. I told my daughter she was too young to come with me (she was 8 at the time) and when the tutor learned that she wanted to come she made me go home and get her. My DD spent all Saturday afternoon and all day Sunday being taught how to cut fabric and sew it back together to make a cushion. It didn't take long for our house to be overrun with cushions. I even had to buy her her very own sewing machine so we would stop fighting over whose turn it was to sew.
For the next 5 years this tutor arrived and all us patchwork and quilting mad ladies and one very small girl would sew until we were ready to drop. A deep friendship has been formed with this tutor who calls my DD her protege. My DD has made endless quilts, her first when she was 10, quilted jackets, dolls, charity quilts, machine embroidered items.
She is now 27 and says she has been quilting for nearly 20 years, I'm getting old Mum. She has been subjected to the odd raised eyebrow and snicker over the years and her way of handling it was to name drop all the tutors she has met over the years and what workshops and quilt retreats she has attended. Shuts them up everytime.

So Momski I hope you never have to deal with rude and ignorant people again

Hello Momski,

I'm so sorry you had that experience. I love the sewing machine comment. All the comments here on your experience Momski are really great. It's so wonderful that you all are so supportive of one another. You are all a beautiful and loving bunch of people. I'm proud to be part of this group.

Something that has worked for me in the past: pray for the person for a week. Your bad and hurt feelings will be gone, plus you will have done a very good thing, even if you have to prayer for the person through clenched teeth.

I also had a bad experience this weekend with a very rude quilter right here in chat. I was talking about using scraps from the garbage can to make quilts and they came back at me with something very nasty. It hurt and made me feel very sad that someone would do such a thing and I just joined. That experience could have caused someone else to leave the group.

Big Hugs
Marie

Well... I'm from Mariners' country and we don't snicker... shed a tear every now and then... but never a snicker. But then again... what was the snicker for??? Because she was wearing a t-shirt? Please! :hunf: Why do some people feel the need to do that??? Because they are insecure in themselves.

Some people just make me angry... then I have to go to the store and buy fabric to soothe my soul. THAT'S why there are rude people!! To keep us quilting! (not that we need the help) :lol:

And I'm with you on the sewing machine eating the quilts! Munch up! :thumbup:

When people are not nice, remember that their own Karma will come back to them. We never need do anything, because what goes around comes around. I'm sure she experienced bad luck for her bad behavior.

Rude, Rude, Rude!!!! I hope all their needles breal in the process!

Well said Irma! LOL!

I love your response. I wish I could think of something like that when things like this happen. :thumbup:

Ditto

LOVE your retorts. I must remember those. Except when things like that happen to me I am so shocked that I can't think of anything to say till much later.
Then I think I should have said..........

Remember your experience as a good one. Think of all the beautiful quilts you saw and all the ideas you now have.

Great idea - the return of the voodoo doll
- love it

Like this song?
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HrtzX2ONoT4

You tube link to I Pray for you song lol.

Lol

Yes with all those pins handy, if you give us trouble, we'll make you pay and pay and pay:)(vodoo doll bit lol)

I agree with Rosy! Most so called 'quilters' who act like that are really only wannabees. I personally have never meet a sister quilter that I haven't adored. I worked one summer at a church camp and every summer a quilt group from a neighboring state comes for a long weekend just to quilt together, share ideas and enjoy one anothers company. When i found out they were there I made a little visit to their area and wow! What a tremendous group of ladies!!!! They shared their work, their ideas, stories, and so much valuable info on quilting supplies etc. I left after spending only about an hour with so much support and info that i will never ever forget that wonderful group of quilting ladies. I just wiah I lived closer so I could join them. Anyone who is a real quilter knows that it takes multiple personalities and lifestyles to be able to do the work that quilting requires. Forget those ladies and remember the wonderful quilts you saw while there.

It is so clear to me that that woman did not know of what she spoke of, she did however show her ignorance of her knowledge about quilts and their history. she just could NOT have been a quilter herself. so just consider the source. so sorry you had part of what should have been a great day spoiled by a know nothing, type of person trying to look like they were not so ignorant!

You go girl. Great job. Maybe some of these crabby people will get the hint and not be so nasty.

Wow -- this has been interesting!!! Yes, I have ideas now, too! I've run into some "interesting" people at LQSs and at quilt shows. However, I recently ran into the neatest woman at a quilt show --- who has invited me to the local guild (now that ought to be interesting!)

1) I would NEVER, NEVER snicker at someone in a Mariner's T-shirt (not sure that's what they were snickering about though). I thought EVERYONE in the NW wore t-shirts (I do!):P

2) Now every time my machine "eats my quilt".....I'm going to wonder who I offended today!!!!!!!!! :shock:

Good advice from everyone here.....Know that YOU are a nice person and they'll have to answer for it!!!

yay! Well Said.

I love your last sentence !!

I dislike rude people. What exactly does a "traditional quilter" look like?

I am a quilter, but I don't exactly look "traditional.

Shame on them, but I would bet that even if they weren't quilters, they would be that rude. My experience with quilters is that 99.999999% of them are just the most wonderful, friendly, caring, helpful people in the world. So put them in the quilt eating machine, and think of all the wonderufl people on here.

Maybe they were from the "QUILTING POLICE" and trying to shape everyone else up to their standards????

Or they watched a Bob Villa video on quilting.........LOL

Get a sparkly blue prism and it'll redirect that bad juju quilt eating vibe:)

Those snotty bad-excuses-for-a-human beings remind me of my needlework teacher. Whenever she saw any of my "work" she got struck by disgust and a sound like Arrgh with a slant toward puking came out of her painted mouth.
At the end of my school days all my peers, my mother, father, brother and all my friends knew that I had two left hands - including me.

When my mother visited me at age 40 she watched me finish curtains for my living room. I pretended not to notice but I saw her surprise.
At night she realized that she had forgotten her PJs. I gave her a pair of the ones I had made. Another surprised look.
Next day, as if it had been ordered, my neighbor came over and said, "Come over and help me with my shelf. I need a pair of hands like yours." I grinned when I quickly went over there to help (and have fun doing it).

That's when my mother finally started her comments with: "You know, this is strange ...."


When some bitchy knowitall says something inappropriate to me then I just grin (I have years of practice with that).

But I hope you will remember all the great retorts whenever you see one of those big-mouth-hyenas assault a child - and let them have it.

Why oh WHY do people have to be so rude. I think the saying what goes around comes around, will get them.

This is a cute song, maybe will cheer us all up.

I like the idea of making a pin cushion in her honor!!! Don't let it get to you - some people just can't help showing their ignorance!

Great song!
Thanks for the laugh!

I've been very fortunate that I've not had snotty quilters address me like that, and for that, I'm thankful, because I KNOW I wouldn't have a quick comeback in the moment. But one I can think of right now is, "Oh, I'm sorry. I didn't mean to give you the impression that I care what you think."

Lately I've been hearing a lot from younger quilters that some that have had the privelege of having more years of experience putting down the younger quilter's work. It makes no sense to me that people would be rude about another creative person. I mean, aren't we supposed to be teaching the younger generation our craft, so that it doesn't become a dying art? If younger quilters are confronted by snotty standoffish quilters, does that give a positive image to the younger quilter? Hopefully it doesn't deter the younger one from continuing on with her craft.

Oh how I love this place!! The song is funny, and the pin cushion idea is fabulous.

Although I think this is a GREAT IDEA I'd really hate to be reminded of her every time I stick a pin in my pincushion. Maybe you could make one, use it for a short period of time and then gift it to someone that may have had a similar experience. This would be a great "pay it forward" deal. Pass the voodoo pincushion on. LOL!

And all your needles break, your tension go nuts when FMQ, your coffee with cream spills on your newly hand quilted masterpiece... SO THERE! :twisted:

You look GREAT! May all your quilts sell for big bucks!