I loved reading the kindness that Dayle was expressing.. I agree with her.. It's a sensitive situation..

I had an oportunity to purchase fabric from a widower. He would not quote me a price - so I made him an offer and he accepted. When I got home and sorted the items, I found a quilt top with various names hand embroidered on it. I contacted him and returned the top to him. He was grateful and said several members of the family were wondering what ever happened to that quilt top. It's now where it belongs!

If she has been sick for 3 years, she may have started getting rid of stuff while she was alive...this could be the leftovers...

If she was like my sister... A fighter to the end. She would not of started clearing out things. Until my sister lapsed into coma she would say," When I get to feeling better, I'll work on this or I'll finish that".

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Above all, all keep forefront in your mind that this is a sensitive situation where a man is selling things that were dear to

This is an opportunity to be a win/win situation. You are in a position to help this man in his grief journey.

Dayle[/QUOTE]

And it is indeed a journey! Lost my DH 9 months ago to cancer.

Latrinka - hugs to you on your journey.

This thread reminds that I really need to tell someone WHERE to take my sewing stuff - the local quilt guild comes to my mind, or my favorite quilt store. They will have the contacts of people who will appreciate my stuff. My brother (logical choice for executor of my mess) doesn't live in town and has zero clue who my friends are. At this point, my nephews are all school age and they don't care about Aunt Becca's stuff either!

Last summer I saw an ad on Craigs List for "lots of fabric". I called immediately and was invited to come look at it. It was a quilters cache. Ten large garbage bags of top quality quilter's cotton and all for $100. I paid him and only got a few miles before I had to pull over and investigate what was in the bags. Oh boy, with the exception of some glitsy stuff, everything was my taste and some of the flannels were identical to ones I had purchased at my local quilt store. I've talked to others in our guild who have also bought a quilters stash and $100-$150 seems to be the going rate. The young man I bought it from told me that his Mom wanted it to go to a quilter and asked that I show him some quilts to prove it. I was happy to oblige and he was thrilled to get rid of it.

after reading this, my family has been instructed to BURN everything in my sewing room and the studio!

I would never expect them to take $100 for my inventory of nearly $80K worth of stuff! YIKES.....what if the poor guy is paying off her medical bills, or trying to save their home after the bills nearly wiped them out!....

A bargain is always nice, but to steal some one blind because "he does not have a clue of it's value"...really....MY dh knows the value..and so do my kids....I make sure they know...

I thought that was kind of cheap to. My oldest granddaughter turned 30 & all of a sudden she wants to quilt. She doesn't even know how to sew I don't think. This will be a lot of fun I think.

Dayle, this is amazing insight and I wanted to thank you for posting.