So .... would "that looks like (expletive)" also apply to his meals? LOL. Tell him a husband -- me -- said to go buy a set of golf clubs and practice. Guaranteed you will not see him for hours and hours, and days and days!

Tell him to buy a boat and go fishing -- another daylong activity you will certainly enjoy.

Tell him to join a bowling league -- gone a lot of evenings and on Saturdays during the day.

Hand him one of the longest "honey-do" known to mankind and tell him you expect all of it to be done before Sunday -- I hate those lists LOL!

If these suggestions don't work, toss him the latest Dick's Sporting Goods flyer and tell him to pick a sport/hobby FAST!

Finally, tell him to stop interfering with the one great thing you do that makes you want to be around him -- quilting.

Not bad for a guy who will do anything for his wife. She is my angel, and an angel to hundreds and hundreds of prematurely born babies she has cared for these past 28 years (NICU nurse she is.)

Ditto on the husband. My mum lives away from me and likes seeing what I am doing.

A husband that is jealous of a woman's hobby has a problem!!!
A husband that puts a woman down for doing quilting and making quilts for grand children has a problem. THIS IS A FORM of
ABUSE. Stand firm and tell him this is ABUSE and it needs to stop or he will be gone or we need to go to counseling. This can be a serious matter and not to be ignored.

My DH is always there to support me and very helpful and understanding in my sewing, quilting and crafts. He has a real good eye for fabric and notions. Wouldn't trade him for the world. A little thing he likes is our morning coffee together. If I'm in a project he'll make dinner and call me to come and eat. We are always there for each other.

I too have a wonderfully supportive hubby. He has always had several hobbies (fishing, golf, racquetball) and for many years encouraged me to find something that I was passionate about. I tried several crafts before I decided that quilting and sewing were my passions. He has helped me with my sewing room and supports my purchases enthusiastically. Each of us having our own hobbies gives us "me time" without either feeling neglected. Hubby has been gone on an extedned 14 day fishing trip with buddies and I have done nothing but sew, sew, sew! It's a win-win for both of us.

My hubby is a jewel. He is a partner in my quilting projects. I sew the tops and he is the quilter on our quilting machine. He is so supportive of me. He is a handyman and builds anything I want. He is the local repairman for all my friends' sewing machines. I feel so blessed. We have had such a fun life....backpacked Europe at 60 and spent four months a few years ago teaching English in Russia. Bad health has plagued us this summer but we are working hard keeping strong. We have lots more we want to do with life!

I have one of those too. I have the advantage that he has knee problems, and must elevate it, so I pick up used VHS or DVD's of "guy movies" , give them a good cleaning, and he can watch war, nascar, wrestling, or what ever strikes him. I get un-interupted 'me' time, in two hour blocks. He even takes me garage sale-ing (is that a word?) to find them. At about $1-2 each, it's cheap entertainment. He even microwaves his own popcorn. Gotta love 'em. :thumbup:

Hey, what can I say.... my DH has joined me and is putting out more more than I am. He beats all I've ever seen. He can mark and cut all day long and it doesn't bother him a bit. I can't sit that long. And when he is on the machine.... Well that's another story. But, he still hasn't learned to fill those bobbins!!!

Hubby and I have been married 33yrs. He is an alcoholic and has never supported anything I do. Never has a kind word about anything and is always negative. He wants to know every penny I spend, every place I go and every person I talk to. NOT HAPPENING. I don't smoke, drink, use drugs or cheat.. I went to co-dependence classes and learned that I didn't have to react to his actions. I taught my sons to play ball, change oil in a car etc. and I do all the handiwork around the house including remodeling the house my sons rent from me. His free time is spent by himself drinking or in front of the TV passed out. He is a diabetic with stage 4 cirrhosis and is completely happy being miserable. PLEASE don't feel sorry for me. I pretty much do as I please and have been known to tell him to put on His Big Girl panties and deal with it. Life sews on. :)

Mine just bought me a new Aurora 450 (Bernina) and all kinds of stuff and xtra feet to go with it - I am in heaven and definately going to keep him - he is the best

Just realized you billed yourself as a "cajun" I too am of Acadian decent.........Richard. One of the original 53 + or _.
Thank you for the anniversary wishes.

You are all so very lucky. Please take care of those great husbands. My husband has been gone for seven months now and I really miss him. Years ago he built me a sewing area. He made me a huge table (4'x8') to spread out patterns, fabrics or whatever I was working on at the time. He had his work shop on one side of the basement and my sewing area was on the other. We had almost 45 good years together.

Lol! Mine thought this was another of my "passing fancies"! After almost 10 years now he is resigned to the fact that it is here to stay. Every room in our house except the master has something to do with fabric in it.

My husband is also great. We were both divorced and pretty independent when we met. So he can cook, clean, etc. We have a good time working together. We just finished building a fence in our yard. We are getting ready to paint our house. We have completely remodeled our house ourselves. But, I am a quilter and he a fisherman. He knows where most of the LQS are and I know where most of the LFS (fishing) store are. He is great with color and helps with everything. I make him shirts out of fishing fabric. Then, we go to the Sierras and he fishes and I quilt while there. We stay in a motel with a big window. When he comes in from fishing we go to quilt stores, fishing stores, shopping. We have been married 27 years now and really enjoy each other and every day I thank God for him.
Verna in So Cal

Precious!

Just remember that we love you, and are here for you if you need us! WE LOVE YOUR QUILTING and YOU!

There are quilty sister's here who NEED your insight. SHARE!

Good for you!! Life is way too short to just stop living! Mine is the same but he went dry four years ago and got the help he needed, we still have our ups and doens but there is more laughter then tears now days.

I think there are more saints in your home than just your husband. Thanks for saving the puppies, I got the sweatest saint bernard from just outside Tulsa 10 years ago and we just lost her this June. Hope your life is filled with sunshine. Gail

Raptureready, I have been admiring the quilt in your avatar and wishing that I had the pattern and I would make me one with the exasct same colors. You do beautiful work and remind him that people in heaven will not talk like that. God bless you for your patience. Gail

I have to say, I don't brag on my hubby often enough.
He isn't interested in my fabrics, or my books, and he doesn't know how to fix my machines, but he did build me shelves for my sew-cave, let me buy gobs of fabric, and has bragged about things I have made, so I'm gonna keep him anyway ;)

Probably a lot more than you are imagining! It's great to have supportive husbands who may not understand it in the least, but know how important it is to us. My hubby never complains about how much I spend or how much stash I have or why I just have to have this particular item. In turn, his life is much easier I'm sure, and he enjoys football ALL DAY Sunday with little interruption cuz guess what, I can applique and join him!

Is that the 457 model? I f it is, I also have it and also love it. Mine was given to me by my husband in around 1967. She has only been in the shop twice in all that time. That's a good machine !

Very very lucky ! After 55 yrs he's still there for me supporting me in all my various hobbies. Builds shelves, drives me to different places to buy supplies, etc. He also takes me out to dinner ( out of his personal savings, when I;m down in the dumps when he could spend it on himself.....almost never does that. He has his own hobbies and we sometimes share tools and other gadgets. Couldn't live without him !!! Wish all women could be so fortunate. Guess we'll let the man upstairs make those decisions.

Here's a great BIG hug ! Not because I feel sorry for you but because I am so proud of you ! Love your attitude. Living with an alcoholic is not a good life, my dad was one so I understand, but I still loved him. He was a wonderful person when sober.

I do know how you feel, my mum and stepfather went through a stage that when they were drunk and fighting they would hit each other over the head with2 large full bottles of beer. In those days beer came home 2 in a bag. My husband drinks beer but nothing like that. This morning I asked if he could perhaps find me some ply a certain size out of the shed (When he was ready) He went out and sorted out a big piece and told me to measure what I need, he cut it right away. Now I am trying to get the bend out of it before I make a pressing board for my sewing room. He does things like that, it is annoying when I am trying to fix up the sewing room, I did appreciate him doing it. With my osteo-arthritis in my back, it has been very sore again lately. Moving all the book, cupboards etc.

One year one of the big shows sold "Quilter's Hero" t-shirts. I bought one for my husband right away. When he was able to walk without difficulty he'd go to shows with me and actually LOOK AT the quilts on display. We'd discuss our likes and dislikes. He's helped me pick out fabric, patiently holding different combinations so I could see what worked the best. When I come home from a show or fabric shop he takes an interest in what I've purchased. He likes to see what I'm working on. He's been totally supportive and encouraging. Even tho he's not able to shop like he used to, every Christmas I find a few fat quarters in my stocking. As far as my husband and my quilting, I couldn't ask for more.

To "Verna in So Cal" on page 9 --- HELLO! I'm not used to seeing another Verna, I'm usually the only one. Did you buy a good supply of Moda's Verna fabric line?

You go girl. Been there myself. Haven't had a drink since July29, 1988. Take care of yourself. A drunk won't change until they hit bottom, end up in jail or dead. You'll be in my prayers.

I too am not used to seeing VERNA except where it comes to my Grandparents and their doll making in the 1940's they called their company "Verna" after my grandfather Vernon. both have passed now and I am lucky to have one of their original dolls in my collection of over 600 assorted dolls.

God bless you and your family for caring for the dogs. I wish I had room to do that but I think my husband would divorce me (hahah). We did adopt two dogs from our local animal shelter and another one who was on her way there, ll within 3 weeks. At this point we have 4 dogs and 4 cats. We are also caring for two dogs that are having medical problems. One of those gogs just went home this weekend and the other dog will be with us for a couple of more weeks.

As far as quilting, my husband is fantastic. He helped me put my sewing room together (several times), he goes to all sizes of quilting shows where he gets me into trouble more than I get myself in trouble shopping my myself. He wishes he could buy me a quilting machine so I don't have to pay some one else to finish my quilts. I told him I am happy with what I already have.

God Bless him as well.

Go for it!

That's a nice story, Annya. How lovely to have one of the dolls that they made.

Our nephew's college girlfriend finished school in June and just went home to Australia where she plans to stay. So it looks like he'll be heading to your part of the world soon.

Regards from New Jersey USA.

I am so sorry you have a husband that lashes out, what you need to do is treat him for one or two days the way he treats you, It will be a eye opener for him. God bless. Penny

My hubby is great to, on top of taking over all the house chorice when I became disablied. he helps me in any way he can. I can't afford to buy anything, but when someone sends something to me, fabric,thread,batting,books. I share with him, and Like me he can not beleive all you wonderful people. I had a mini stroke last Sunday, and its muddled my brain some, so when I was putting together my grandsons jean quilt, I asked him to help me decide on what shades of jean and wear. He lets me no what he likes or dislikes, and he is very suportive of me, he does not make me anything, but he is there for me. God bless

I'd either attempt to help him discover a hobby or try to get him involved with mine. Maybe he can help you sort fabrics or threads or organize your room, or send him to Home Depot or Lowes to get you some fabulous shelving that he can install and feel that he is helping (and he will be). In turn, you decide how much time you are willing to give just to him. Does he like the movies or taking walks with you or BBQing? My compromise is that my hubby LOVES and I mean LOVES football. So I hand quilt and applique while I "watch the games" with him. I also keep up with his fantasy football team since he works a lot of Sundays.

My husband is a gift from God. He supports my quilting hobby. He has converted a closet in the guest room and made custom shelves for my crafts. In several occasions, he has taken a sample of fabric to the quilt store and purchased it for me. Oh, happy day.

My dh is very supportive and I am very grateful. He sents me to visit my cousin every year and to go to the quilt show. I can't wait to go in Nov. I am a blessed woman.

Vanessa, perhaps you can get him to help with the quilting, choosing colors, patterns or helping you cut fabric. Who knows he might even get into quilting. Does he do any type of wood work? Let him know you need some quilt wall hangers, or peg boards or a cabinet or something that will help out. This may get him into a new hobby and allow you to enjoy yours. Just some thoughts. I would go crazy if my DH wanted all of my attention. He has always been supportive.

He is most welcome to visit if he is in my area ant time with his girl friend, I live in South East Queensland an hour from Brisbane.