We put ourselves down
I read this board almost every day, and at least once a day someone posts a photo of a gorgeous quilt, telling us about how it came about, but always saying something negative about her/his work - "the binding is too dark," "the quilting (or piecing) isn't perfect," "I should have used more blue," or whatever. I think it's great that you actually finished something and were brave enough to show it to the world. Thank you all for sharing!
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I think its because we know our work and quilts so, so well.
We have high expectations of how it is supposed to look or we want it to look. |
It is sometimes encouraging to know that you can do many steps imperfectly and the quilt still turns out wonderful.
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Yes, we are our own worst critic. It can be a good thing or a bad thing. I have been quilting for years, and am just figuring out FMQ ... my results have been horrible LOL ... but I laugh about them, and keep going.
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We are always wanting better work from ourselves. But, I believe, this is a good thing, as it makes us strive for something higher.
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I never apologize for any of my quilts, good or bad. I never point out the oops in my quilts to others. One old biddy guild member pointed out to everyone I had a few points cut off in a star block and said it's not right. By the next meeting I had made another smaller quilt with every point cut off and showed it Show and Tell. I told them the name of the quilt was It's Not Right. I thought a few members were going to bust a gut laughing. Now when someone shows a quilt with mistakes they will say I have a It's Not Right quilt.
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I think people also use a negative comment when they show a quilt so others don't see it as bragging and self importance.
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I try to be realistic about my quilts, and only if I pay attention to what I do and don't like about it, can I make improvments and changes for the next one.
I do the same thing with my baking - I want honest answers to "what do you think?" because I'm not asking to get a "feel good" answer, I want a real answer so I can make adjustments. I feel that if someone asks for opinions, we should give honest ones. If someone just shows a picture to share and does not ask for opinions, then I'll keep them to myself. |
I chalk it up to simple humility. And I cannot think of better quality to have in life. We sure need a lot more of it nowadays!!
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Some people are more high-strung and up tight than others. That is life. I don't think god makes mistakes, so there is a place for us all. Be kind and understand she has to be the way she is. A hard lesson to learn, but so rewarding.
I am not the perfectionist that my mother always said I was, by a long shot. I just have a thing about things in the proper order. It is the way I am hard-wired. I have made peace with it. I certainly would not judge another creature of god's work. We would all be so bored if we were all the same. |
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