It's about commitment. Your stand on the no sell was appropriate. My time is too valuable to be as generous as you and just say I'll send the pattern. I'd have to have a financial incentive up front. Given the difference in that aspect, I think your credit/no share request was reasonable.

what a beautiful quilt, i can see why the lady would want to buy it, but you absolutely did the right thing, in keeping your word and giving it to the school.....and you were very generous in giving her the pattern....her rudeness? live and learn, you should not stop being a giving person because someone with no manners is ungrateful.....you did good!!!....gina

Who knows how much the quilt will bring in when raffled, or has it already been raffled off? I think you did the right thing, you had already committed to your son and his school. That shows your son you are a person of your word and is a lesson to him as well. I think you did the right thing. I just hope the lady doesn't use your pattern and try and sell it as her own. Some people aren't just grateful at all and never like to give credit to who it belongs.

oh you are soooo bad and I agree totally with you!

We made three thousand dollars on a quilt we raffled that was not nearly that pretty....
Depends on the enthusiasm of the ticket sellers, I would guess.
For sure you did the right thing...but did you ask her if she would be willing to wait until you could make a nearly alike
in half a year or so?

I made a Christmas quilt for a school raffle when my daughter was a senior. My friend liked it so much she asked me to make her one and she would pay me for it. I told her to buy some raffle tickets so she bought $20 worth believe it or not, she actually won the quilt. A promise is a promise.

I don't think that will happen LOL! At the time when I started to figure out dimensions and lines etc. I wasn't able to recreate it in EQ6. It isn't sophisticated enough to deal with triangular blocks. I had to do it in another CAD program. So the design was actually a detailed description of how I had built it and a quarter quilt placement diagram with the actual sizes of each block or sashing (they're all different) I had finished with.

I never expected such interest here, so for fun last night I tried to make a better version figuring I could post it for anyone who wanted it. After about half an hour, I realized I'd have to start from scratch with a calculator and graph paper and probably also rework the blocks or it would be devilishly difficult to follow without a hands on workshop kind of thing. I could recreate it, I could diagram it, but writing a 'real' quilt pattern is a whole 'nother story.

Trying to make a better pattern has got me to thinking that maybe I've done the person a disservice thinking she was rude in not at least saying thanks. Even though I had worked on the directions a couple of hours for her, the result wasn't a traditional quilt pattern, it was more like a blueprint for a new house. Maybe when she got it she thought I was being *(add your favorite perjorative adjective)* and just didn't want her to have it. Sorta of like giving someone your famous recipe but leaving out a key step. I did warn at the time that it grew of it's own accord so I'm not going to lose any sleep over it, but I'd feel a little bad if this is what happened.

I started this thread thinking in general about honor, commitments, and courtesy and in a way bemoaning the lack of it in this world we inhabit, and in the end have realized that I may have been hasty in my personal judgment. Even if I wasn't, there may have been many factors why there was no acknowledgment. Possibly as simple as a mis-entered keystoke in an email addy. Real communication is so difficult in a world that is bounded by electrons. But thanks to all who agreed with me that keeping it was the right thing. It's for the benefit of the hot lunch program and I'm hoping to finish quilting it for the Evening of the Arts that we hold in late spring. I'll let you know how it goes. :-)

Diana

Oh do let us know. I hope it brings in bundles of "dough". When you get time and decide to try and write the pattern out, let us know please. I would be interested.
I truly think you did the right thing, and as to the seemingly ungrateful person, there are many of those among us. But you are sweet to give her the benefit of the doubt as to why she didn't thank you for your effort. We can tell from your post at the beginning that you are the forgiving type of person. Looking forward to seeing the finished quilt you are working on now and hearing the results of the raffle. Hugs Gerbie

I think you made the right choice. If you promised a quilt for a raffle...then you should and did/will deliver it. BTW that quilt if gorgeous.

You kept your word and your integrity is intact. Money can't buy that.