Put both your names on the card.......won't you both be sleeping under the quilt? It can be a gift for the two of you to enjoy.

I would tell him that gifts don't have to be bought they can be made and that is what he should give you. A hand made gift. And you will do the same - make him something. You don't have to tell him yours is made already. That way you both have something under the tree.

That really IS a shame. Life is too short not to celebrate it! Please give him a gift, and if he feels bad, ask him to do something for you as his gift. Even make suggestions if you have to, just to make him feel better. Christmas is about the giving, not the getting. JMHO

Why not ask him for the gift of time? Either spend a quiet evening together at home, or go for a walk, or .... He is probably worried that he won't be able to get you just the right thing.

Put it under the tree with a tag on it "From Santa" he will know where it came from!!! If you have no tree up this year, put it in his favorite chair....and don't say a word!!! Or you could tell him in advance that you made him something with love...and if he is so inclined he can make you something or go purchase something small in return so he doesn't feel bad.....but we all know that that isn't what it is all about...or you can hold it till his birthday, anniversary, Valentine's day....whatever!!!

Now if we were talking about my husband my answer would be no, don't give. He hates shopping that much.
You can always tell your husband that your part of the gift you received was being able to make the quilt. We all like fabric and quilty stuff for gifts. The stuff you used for his quilt just came to you a little ahead of Christmas. The giving of a handmade quilt is defintely a gift to yourself. I guess it really all boils down to how will it make him feel if you give it to him and he has no gift for you? As said earlier in this thread maybe wait till New Years and then it can be a "just because I love you gift".
Robin in TX

I think this is the best way to handle this situation. Either give it to him right now, saying "Look what I just finished for you!", or wait a while after Christmas and give it to him saying the same thing. We don't celebrate Christmas, but we do things for each other during the year. It takes love to make a quilt for someone, and no matter what the date, it will give him a warm loved feeling when he receives it. That's the important thing. The date you give it is not important.

I agree with you.....100%.....

Like lots of others, I would say give it to him, you didn't make it in anticipation that you were getting something in return other than the love and gratitude of the recipient. If you don't want to make him feel awkward, you could wait this after the holidays or just put it on the bed with a romantic note attached ;-)

I say don't give it to him as a Christmas present. Give it to him before or after Christmas as an "I love you quilt". Why make him feel bad, and who wouldn't want an I love you quilt!

I like the idea of giving it to him on New Year's day. That way he won't feel bad for not having anything for you at Christmas.

If it were me, and the quilt is large enough, I would just put it on the bed, then when he says something, I would let him know it was made for him or with him in mind, if it's lap sized, I would just put it across the back of the sofa.

Since no one else has suggested this, I will tell you what I do.
I buy myself a gift. It could be a few fat quarters, some toiletries, or other items that we can afford, and that I really do want. I wrap it, and when we exchange gifts, he gets the pleasure and surprise of seeing what I got and how pleased I am. Then, he opens his gift from me with a light heart!
This technique suits us, but may not work for everyone.

Making gifts is a great way to go. Broker a deal for handmade gifts. One year, we were low on money and dh made me a turtle cake. My kids had to tell me it was a turtle but it was a priceless green blob of cake crumbs, cut pieces of cake and messy green frosting. Still is the best gift he ever gave me.

As much as we like to think that this holiday is for giving, we still like to be thought of too, especially from someone as close as a spouse. Give him your gift with all the love you made it with and never anticipate a reciprical gift from anyone you give a gift to. Just love that you are able to do whatever you can to celebrate together.
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Snuggle up on the couch with your hubby and the quilt. Say I made this for us so we could have more snuggle time together. No one would be mad about that. He'll love it!

I don't know about the rest of you, but I feel much better about giving a special gift than recieving so regardless, I would still give him the quilt as I think you will feel better that way.

I like Gramma Nancy's idea of giving it to him New Year's Eve and that it is for both of you for the new year.

I was thinking along this line too! Let him come up with something he can do, or make for you! It's not always about money, lots of other ways to give a gift too....

Yep this is what I was going to suggest!

I like Deanne's suggestion. Put it on the bed, maybe Christmas Eve, maybe New Year's Eve. Maybe we're making assumptions about you sharing the bed. I know many married couples who don't. I doubt your thoughts while making it were of what you would get in return. It's a gift of love. IMHO.

I would give it to him...you made it for that purpose...I'm sure he will love it.

My husband said that every year (we have been married 43 years now)...but always ended up charging a gift for me...then complained every time the bill came due. When we moved here 5 years ago...we agreed no more charging anything.
I made him a quilt last year...made it to both of us.

Wrap the quilt, and make it to the both of you. Put it under the tree and leave it at that. As a stocking stuffer...make up a coupon book...put in it things you can do for him over the coming year, that you don't usually do, but you know he does not enjoy doing...do one time for him...also, if he likes to play golf...and you don't...promise to go with him one time to see what it's about. I just like walking along, nice exercise. You could go as his caddy...stuff like that.

I would give it to him and say I know we couldn't afford to get each other something so I made this with all my love for you .

Thank you for all of your opinions! Given it to both of us is not an option. It is a theme that he enjoys and I have nothing to do with. I spoke with him and told him that I have made him something for Christmas and I don't want anything in return. He is not being lazy about shopping, we truly can't afford it this year. I am finishing my Associates degree in education and I had to quit my job to focus more on school. Thank you again for your support and opinion. I wish you all a very Merry Christmas and a blessed New Year!!

I decreased our income and went back to school. Now I teach nursing students. A husband (family) that supports a member going back to school is a priceless gift. The family members sacrifice almost as much as the student. I'm glad you made him such a personal quilt. What a blessing. Thanks for sharing with us. Merry Christmas and enjoy your break!

I think you should leave it out Christmas eve, and tell him it must be from Santa! Feign ignorance, and enjoy it with him! LInda

wrap it up and place it under the tree where he can see it ...... tell him it was done paid for BEFORE he decided no presents !!!

For years I've been telling my kids that I want my refridgerator cleaned for Christmas. Hasn't happened yet!

Maybe his gift to you can be a service of some sort.......massage, dishes, cook a special meal, coupon book of special things???....then you could give him the quilt as planned!!!!

My dh the same. old scrooge himself. doesn't want to celebrate so we don't. he doesn't think of the grandkids or our youngest who will be coming home for the holidays. give him the gift and tell him you made it with love and are not expecting a gift in return --after all it is the season for giving of love like God did for us so long ago.

Do you have a "honey do" project that doesn't cost much but he really has put off for a long time? Maybe you could suggest he give you that? Or maybe suggest several so he can surprise you. I would be upfront and tell him that you have already gotten his gift. And yes, I would give it at Christmas. The love that went into creating his gift, the satisfaction of seeing it given, sometimes the gift is really for the giver.

I would give him the quilt too. The pleasure is in the giving I say!!

There is always room for gifts and they don't always have to cost money. We challenged ourselves one year to spending absolutely nothing, but still to give gifts of self, time, favors, etc. It was an exceptional year which we remember far beyond any of the gifts received.

You might want to consider that. I'll just bet there's something he could come up with ... maybe doing one of those long-standing items on the "Honey, do" list.

Blessed Holidays to you!

I had my son and daughter in law make the same announcement- they were not going to exchange gifts because they were saving for a down payment on a home. (YEA, 5 miles from our home, 1000's from hers)....I gave them the quilt I had planned on giving them for Christmas with a changed label that said "Winter Wonder-I love you........2011 and signed it. I gave it to them Thanksgiving Day instead- they love it and I stayed within their wishes, gift it to him- just not as a "Christmas Gift".........he will love it and you can share in the love it brings both of you.

you made it for him so give it to him.

Give it to him - it is better to give than to receive. Why do you need to receive a gift?

I would put it under the tree and tell him it's something you made for "us" - something you can cuddle under together!

I would give it to him. Tell him you made it with love. Also, tell him the announcement was just too late. I always give my hubby Christmas gifts and rarely receive one back. But then all the times he drives me (as I can't drive) to the LQS; doesn't say too much when I spend too much on fabric, and picks up speciality items for my quilting during the year I consider my presents.