I love your quilt on your profile where did you find the pattern?

pets on the floor - not invited on my bed - love my bulldog but he snores louder than my hubby and ....well - he probably needs some BEENO - I won't say anymore!!

Very good I agree with you. Every time I start a hand embroidery quilt i get asked whos getting it. I uselly just say I don't know yet.

I think I saw this on this board. In any case, it's so cute, I'm going to include it with my next baby quilt.
It’s your quilt!
It’s OK if you sit on your quilt.
It’s OK if your bottle gets spilt.
If you swallow some air
And you burp, don’t despair,
It’s OK if you spit on your quilt!

There are scraps old and new in your quilt.
Put together for you on your quilt.
If your gums feel quite numb,
‘cause your teeth haven’t come,
It’s OK if you chew on your quilt!

I expect you to lie on your quilt.
If you get hurt you can cry on your quilt.
On a cold rainy night,
Don’t fret, you’re all right,
You’ll be snug warm and dry on your quilt!
Nancy Riddell

Never thought about worthiness. I am filled with joy when someone loves a quilt I have given them. Only one time did I decide never to make that person another quilt. One was used, within a month of me giving it to her as a rug on the floor and the other a few years old I found as a doorstop. It really hurt my feelings like a slap in the face. Oh well SDs.

How about printing up a friendly "application" with these questions & answers attach to any quilted pc. we give away? Just a thought.

I'm running! I'm Running! I'm running to my sewing machine. I have a quilt to make.

I think this is a hard question because if I make a quilt for someone I do it only for people who I know would appreciate it. I would not be upset if it seams abused as long as I know they are using it and not shoving it up on a shelf. I don't even think I would get upset if a small quilt I made ended up being used to make a pet more comfortable as most families that have dogs and cats think of them as family members. I would be more upset if I know someone didn't appreciate and use my quilt for their pleasure.

Don't mean to change the subject but where is Trifid Nebula????? :oops:

One easily memorized answer: "No."

I make quilts to be used.

The first one I made however, I had thought of as being a keepsake more than a 'to be loved on' quilt. However, I quickly discovered that the young recipient felt that it was a 'to be loved on' quilt and I gladly repaired the damages (mainly due to my too scant seams and it being made from vintage fabric her mother had inherited from a deceased grandmother...hence my thought of it as being a keepsake).

Anyway, now I expect them to be loved and used. I know you can't always protect them from little brothers/sisters and the family pets!

I was asked once to make a quilt for someones camper.
Guess they thought they were not good enough for the
house bed.
Told them to buy me $75. worth of material (fabric,
thread, & batting.
Never heard another word from them.

One never knows. Last summer I made Baby quilt for my neice. Our families have not been close but the girls have stayed in touch here and there as I helped raise them when they were young.

Her husband opened up the quilt ans her reaction was heart warming. She looked at me and said that is just like the one you made for me that i have had on my bed all my life. I just love it and now I have one for our son.
I didn't think this girl even remembered that I had loved her so much and that her Mom had become so cold towards the family. True love is strong. Happy Quilting Ladies one never knows the impact we have on someone.

Hun, she just had a baby, she may very well be sleep deprived, or frankly forget how to communicate.

I know I was dazed and more then a little socially inept at that stage.

OMG!!!!!! I was just reading this and thinking of my experience with this and could just see their faces and just busted out laughing the dog came in barking he thought i had gotten company and didn't here them come in. I love the card bit. ty ladies I needed that living alone I don't find many reasons to laugh out loud but these QB'ers can come up with some good ones. tommye

I don't think non quilters understand the time,effort, and money that goes into a quilt. My DGD wanted to make a quilt and as we were working on it, she made the comment, I had no idea a quilt was this much work.

I only make quilts (or anything else) for the people that are worth the time. The others I buy a gift. For the most part that is the people I love and cherish. I make charity children's quilts because I hope they make a difference for the recepient.

As far as the animal issue. If I made it for the dog/cat that would be fine. But if I made it for the human, I would feel that they did not appreciate the quilt.

I do feel if I give a quilt it is theirs and can do what they want with it, but I don't have to like it.

I always cherish gifts that are handmade, because it makes me feel loved. I know I was worth their time.

I think most of us have the need to feel what we put our blood, sweat, and tears in, is loved and appreciated.

I too have made quilts for family. And everyone of mine are used to death. My grand-daughters have used thiers so much there isn't much left. They all want a new one. When they get married they will get a new one. My great niece just got her 2nd one from me for her wedding. And she said that it was hers and not her new husbands.... Oh well they can fight over it. But all of mine are greatly appricated. P.S. My avatar picture is the quilt I made for my great-niece.

I made a small flannel rag quilt for a pregnant co-worker who stated she would hang it on the wall. I was disappointed. Her child is almost 2 yrs old now and she told me the other day that her "baby" loves the quilt and drags it all over the house. I am happy.
I was very happy when my granddaughter took her "French Rose" quilt to summer camp.
I will NOT make a quilt for someone I don't know (the exception being community service) or someone who will not appreciate it.
There is far too much work, blood, sweat and tears (not to mention money) into the construction of a quilt for it to go to an "undeserving" person!

My quilts have had cat whatever on them , thrown in the corner, and not appreciated by my DiL, I will not make any more quilts for her but I will make quilts for the needy, they seem to cherish what ever they get,

How wonderful!! I just love the stories about the "heart" on this site. These are really good people. I agree that not everyone is worthy of all the work and expense that go into a quilt. I do think, however, that the love we feel and the caring expressed when we give away our quilts means so much to the right person. I guess I would look for that "need for comfort" in someone's life before making them a gift of a quilt. I have had friends diagnosed with cancer or diabetes or something else life altering and have made a simple quilt and have been rewarded with a smile and a thank you that made all of it worth while. You just KNOW you've improved their life. And who knows how often they pull that thing around them like a pair of loving arms or weep into it in the night?

I've been sitting here reading the posts and thinking. My pop told me as a young child "you should never give anything with intentions" Thats hard to sink in sometimes. Giving is self serving, you shouldn't want anything in return othr than the fact that you could give unselfishly. Hard to live by. We live every day giving to those we love expecting in return respect, love, undrstanding, when really all we need is knowing that we gave. I can't seem to do this I find myself "judging" as we all do. I challenge each of you to give to that one person that you just don't think is quilt worthy.

I have been reading this thread for a since yesterday and I got on my podium than and got back off..but.. this morning it hit me...its a shame we can't be as forgiving and generous and non judgemental to our family and friends as we can to people we never meet doing our charity quilts...whats the old saying....charity begins at home...you have no idea what the charity quilts you give are being used for...you shouldn't care what they are being used for in your loved ones homes..if you made it with love...I am not usually the type of woman to complain about things but I am amazed at what you all have said....we have all had someone in our family and friends who have misused a quilt (according to our prospective) but maybe not according to theirs...sharing it with their beloved pet may be their way of showing how much they love them...when my Lucy(8 year old bloodhound) was sick with cancer we used whatever we could to keep her warm and comfortable...when we got a new puppy I made her a quilt...I still have it...corner is chewed but its Beulahs mark she was here...maybe someday a new puppy will love it...I love quilting...I can't possibly keep every quilt I make..I would be out of room...but I love being generous and loving to my family and friends...I really don't care how they see fit to use it...my son will be receiving his over size king quilt this weekend..I did say I will never make another one this big...but I know my son has 3 children and a cat and a wife who is a bit of a slob...(I love her anyway)..he wanted a black and white quilt he saw at a quilt shop when he stopped in to see me...so I made it black white and red..but I put a black backing on it..so hopefully it won't show as many stains as the children help to break it in over the next several years..the kids sleep with them when they are sick..so I kept that in mind..stitching every stitch with love and thoughts of the future and what this quilt will see...again I won't be here forever but the quilt might make it longer than I ...I am not worthy of anything in my life that I have been so generously given..but all the same someone has given to me...so I generously and unjudgingly give back...again making a quilt is an act of love...love should be unconditional...ok again off my podium...I hope you all have a quilty day and that you are all blessed in your lifes..blessings

bearlea,
Well said

I'm so happy to see that so many of you will be giving quilts this year to the child molester across town, and the drug dealer that hangs out near our local schools. Its heart warming to know that some of us don't judge like me.

I think one of the things most of us quilters can't come to terms with is that someone WOULDN'T love and cherish a quilt as much as we do. But some don't. To some, it's really just a common blanket, not a statement of our love. Just think of all the stuff at church bazaars that you wouldn't want in your home. I won't mention anything, because I'm sure I'd offend someone. But they were lovely to someone, and I'm sure they thought their craft would be chersihed by whomever they gave it to. My dad used to say "there's no accounting for taste!" So, I expect the tough part is deciding who wants a blanket and who wants a quilt. And not to be appalled that someone only wants a blanket.

Bearlea: I agree and stated in my post that a gift is given and once it's out of our hands that's it. My complaint and I think others feel the same, after a certain age (say 21) everyone should know the amount of work that a hand made object (knitted, crocheted, sewn) has in it. My DIL is 35-she's seen me quilting yet when the dog threw up she grabbed the quilt I made and threw it over the area on the rug with puke on it. Wouldn't you be a little hurt and more than a little angry?? Aren't paper towels invented for that?? I also saw her use a quilt her grandmother made to line the back seat of her car so the kids wouldn't get mud on the seat after soccer practice. Is this someone you would make another quilt for?? If so, bless you, you are more forgiving than I am.
I make many charity quilts and many qults for children and they are used for whatever purpose. I expect more from adults. I don't think it's fair to "look down" on us that feel our quilts deserve more respect than the car upholstery.

I found myself in this situation just in the past 3 months. I made a king size quilt for my son and his wife. Posted pictures of it on facebook. A guy who grew up and went to high school with our son soon said "I want a quilt". Welll, his Mom had just passed away. I didn't have the heart to say no to him. So I made him a deal. He wanted a "messy" quilt, meaning a scrappy quilt. I knew I had plenty of scraps in my stash to make him a large "messy" quilt. So I told him that I would make him a quilt because he has been like another one of our kids. But since hubby and I are now seniors living on a fixed income I don't have much ready cash to spend on having a quilt quilted. So he is going to pay for having it quilted. It is in the making right now...a "messy" log cabin. He was perfectly willing to pay the $150 or whatever to have it quilted. So I believe he is worthy of the work I am putting into this. By the way I have the 64 blocks done. Just have to figure how I am going to lay it out and then sew it together.

Oh my

Application question:
"Do you promise to love, honor, and cherish this quilt 'til death do you part?"
Well, it's almost that personal!

I love that Seinfeld episode, but then I love most of them. I determine quilt-worthy by the aksing myself a similar question. Is this person "friend" worthy? Since everyone one I ever made a quilt for, including the kids and vets I have never met, is friend worthy, then I only hope I make them smile with my quilt.

Of course, if your cat uses it for a litter box, just please don't let me know!!!! :wink:

I don't see anything wrong with making quilts for your pets, I have made them for mine too. The problem I have is the quilt that's thrown in the corner of the garage, dirty and cobwebby "for the dog". It's okay for a dog to have a quilt, but for heavens' sake, don't treat it like a rag.

I completely agree!!

i haven't been charitable enough yet to make quilts for charity (much) every quilt i give is to someone i care about and want to make happy. but you are right, there is just a lot of blood sweat and tears & $ put into ANY quilt. and the people i care about usually love my quilts to pieces. and wash and wear them out. that's the life i want for any of my gifted quilts.

You got this right :lol: They are that personal to me :thumbup:

I also agree , children are one thing , but your so right adults
should know better!!!! :thumbup:

That's the exact reason I sew quilts for charity, to be loved and cherished. Just because I don't know that sick child doesn't mean he or she shouldn't have a quilt made with my love and caring hands. Look at their faces in the pictures on the QFK website and you will see how much they appreciate their gift.

I just put a lot of hard work and time and physical pain into making a Biscuit Quilt for a baby and I know that the mother's not going to lock it up but I'm ok with that. I guess what would bother me is if I made an heirloom quilt or something that was meant to be treasured and was asked for that purpose and it was purposely treated badly. I went into this latest project knowing that it was for a baby and that it was a lot of work and time so I think that's what makes it easier knowing that it will most likely get stained or ripped. At first, earlier in this post, I thought I would be upset but then I remembered all the love and fun I had with my Gram's quilts growing up and when something would rip or tear, her mother (my Great Gram) would say something like, "It's not worth hurting the child's feelings." I love that and recently had a moment to repeat those words to my girls when one accidently broke a china dish. A child's heart is eternal, something tangible is not. =)

What I don't know and don't see won't hurt me. I can relate to everything you said. C'est la vie, I guess.