I might leave the group if I got a lot of negative comments on my pictures. I post them because I am proud that I finished it. I want those accolades.

If I ask for help or a critique then say it honestly.

I would never make a comment about another persons
quilt or craft item, because I am not a great quilter.

I'm in the group of "If you cannot say something nice.....".
My Mother taught me this and she lived what she taught until she was well into her 80's and then she became more outspoken.
I had a woman look at one of my needlepoint projects. It was a fun sign to hang outside our RV. I did not follow all the rules or pattern so the back was messy. She said "How cute" and then looked at the back, and said "Oh, my!" I thought she was rude to look at the back!
It is best to say something positive about a quilt if you are in person. I agree you can admire the colors or pattern or simply say I know that took a lot of work.

Ditto

I totally agree with aorlflood, if you can't say something nice then don't say anything at all. None of us would like to have someone tell us that they don't like our work, or our choice of colors. For the person that has made that quilt to them its beautiful, so lets all say good things to everyone, and then this world would be a much better place don't you think????????

I would say nothing at all about a quilt that I didn't like. If someone was having a problem, I would give advice only if it was asked for. Otherwise, I generally keep my opinions to myself. This has not been difficult because I have yet to be in a "face-to-face" situation where a comment is expected.

Treasureit.. I love your avitar

AMEN

The funny thing is..is what I don't especially like, someone else will love. It is all in the eye of the beholder. It's the love that is put into the making.

I have a friend that says "it's a good thing every has different tastes because if they did eeryone would want Verge{her X}.
LOL
Penny

I do not consider myself a professional quilter, so I would never judge anyone elses. I think a lot depends on individual tastes. If we all quilted alike it would get pretty boring I think.

After having to rush to finish two quilts for Christmas presents this week I definitely have to categorize myself as a novice quilter as I noticed tons of imperfections in my quilts that I wish I would have had time to correct. However, to nonquilters I suppose they are wonderful creations as those that have seen them keep complimenting them (they must have flown by on a galloping horse). Thankfully we all have different likes and dislikes as I keep seeing projects of others that are great inspirations to me and I see others that I can walk away from easily. Good thing I don't love everything as I'm already in the mode of too many patterns, too little time. I would never criticize anything that another person has created as I know only too well that each of us has our own step that is very difficult to us. To improve in our skills means we have to keep practicing and if we get too much criticism we tend to quit creating which means we don't get the practice to improve. I would never want to be a person to stop someone from being creative. Sew on my friends, sew on. Merry Christmas to all!!

Gina you are so right.

Peace and Happines to you and all our members

I think people have different tastes in colors, patterns, and differing levels of tolerance for defects. If someone is having fun quilting, that's the most important thing to me. I'll tell someone if I love their quilt, but to tell them I don't? That would seem arrogant to me. What business do I have questioning any of the above on someone else's quilt.

We are all at different levels and I appreciate that when I look back at things I have done and wish I had know then how to do it better. I was happy with it at the time.

I am sure when I learned how to walk - my parents didn't tell me I wasn't doing it good enough...they praised me and encouraged me to try again....and you know what I can walk pretty good now!! LOL

If I can't say something nice I usually don't say anything. We are at many different levels of quilting and each quilt is an accomplishment for someone. We should be encouraging rather than being critical.

99% of the time I can find something about even an ugly quilt I like and can comment favorably. Occasionally I have found myself with my back to the wall and say something like "It's like some men I've met...just not my type." I have a couple of very close friends that I will be honest with if they ask, and they would do the same for me.

People put their heart and soul and time into the quilts they make. If I don't like it, I either don't comment or try to give a positive comment. Who am I to say that a quilt is not good just because it isn't my taste. I would always try to encourage a quilter. Their next quilt may be better. Also, they may not like mine. Unless someone specifically says they don't like the quilt they made and ask for suggestions to make it better, I would keep my mouth shut. Beauty is always in the eye of the beholder.

I just don't say anything if it is not something positive. I have a quilt top finished that is just real bad. I found the flannel pieces all cut out at a church basement sale and I bought it for 50 cents. I was just sick that someone went through all this cutting the navy and cream color fannel and they were just asking 50 cents. I bought it and I was convinced that the person passed on and I told her, don,t worry I will finish it. I did not know what pattern it was supposed to be and I cut some of the squars in half and then they did not fit anything else. I put it aside and then 3 or 4 yrs later igot it out again and added some red fannel. It is all uneven and not many seams match. It is checkered and my daughter likes that because she has a mini cooper and had some checkers put on it. I decided to finsh it anyway and she could put it in the car for the dogs to lay on or if she got stuck somewhere she would not get cold. There is something about it that it is special now. Almost like a Charlie Brown Christmas Tree.

Once, when I was in a manic situation, I saw one that was terrible. I said I didn't think that I would choose that particularly shade of green and yellow. It was a donation quilt and it was really bad but I felt bad after saying anything, so I agree. Try to find something positive to ssy or keep your mouth shut.

I don't think it would be nice to say "I don't like" some one's work when they did work so hard on it--and maybe feeling bad already. I try to find something good or nothing at all. I don't like to hurt people--I don't like to be hurt so I try to think of them.

Well, my mother always said "if you can't say anything nice, keep your mouth shut" so I have followed that rule all my life - no reason to change now... :)

I would never criticize another persons work. If asked for my honest opinion I would offer suggestions but never criticize.

I think I always find something to compliment the quiltmaker with. If I were to say anything negative I couldn't admit to being a quilter for fear of having the same done to me.

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Right?

Over a year ago I went to a quilt camp run by a famous quilter who has his own magazine. After we all worked on our blocks for the mystery quilts we put them up on design walls. At one point I heard this teacher say to a quilter, "Oh, yours really sucks!!!" and then he walked on to the next quilter. I was devastated for the poor woman. Granted, not every quilt will be Houston or Paducah material, but what a thing to say to someone! I think he is not a cruel person, but I'm not sure that he understood how damaging a comment like that is, even it he possibly meant it as a joke (???). We all need not to undermine each other's efforts, after all we wouldn't want someone to be unkind to us. Besides, beauty, in the end, really is in the eye of the beholder. I lost respect for this man as a teacher...people paid good money for his help not his ridicule.

"Art is in the eye of the beholder", , I appreciate the and admire everyone's talent. I learn from everyone. I can't say someone's work is hideous, so much labor and dedication goes into making it, besides they may think the same thing about mine. BUT, rarely have I ever seen a quilt on this QB that I have not liked for more than one reason.

Well said. Thankfully we are all different and none of us is perfect. Compliments of the season to you all.

Sometimes I consider myself more of a lurker. I try not to give a negative opinion as I don't want to hurt anyone.

My mother always said the same thing...however, she had no problem telling me everything that was wrong with what I did.

Some of us just enjoy looking at all the wonderful quilts without making comments. This doesn't make any of us quiet quilt police.

undercover I would never tell someone I didn 't like there quilt

I would not say "I don't like it" but if asked for an honest opinion I might say "It might have had more oomph with more contrast in colours" or if asked for advice on how to make it better I would gently suggest. Or mention that this is the way I handled something in the past. (Only if asked for the advice though).

Sometimes I think something negative but I would never speak it. Who am I to judge what someone else likes.

We all know how much effort goes into making a quilt so there has to be some redeeming quality in the person's work.

I can, and do, always appreciate the labor that goes into any work of art, and that is what a quilt is. It might not be my style or my choice, but it is beautiful in it's own right - just like people!

If asked for advice I would give my best and honest suggestions. I think anything else is an insult to the person who asked. But I would word it as only my opinion. However, if someone is not asking and just sharing their creation I would never be negative. I would be quiet or find something nice to say. Might only be an acknowledgement of the work put into the quilt if I really couldn't find anything else nice to say.