quilting for free ( when they want to pay)
09-06-2011, 11:20 AM
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Originally Posted by IrelandDragonQuilting
Perhaps ask them to donate any monies they wish to pay you to the local shelters or food banks? They value your time and know what it takes to make a quilt. You are a very kind and generous person to make them quilts and not want anything in return. Sure sounds like your two families are close and have a great relationship!
09-06-2011, 01:03 PM
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I agree with this idea -- one of the hardest think for many of us is to accept a gift or help in a graceful manner. They probably would feel hurt if you refused their offer. Giving to a charity will help and please everyone
Just my opinion -- Mim
Just my opinion -- Mim
Originally Posted by IrelandDragonQuilting
Perhaps ask them to donate any monies they wish to pay you to the local shelters or food banks? They value your time and know what it takes to make a quilt. You are a very kind and generous person to make them quilts and not want anything in return. Sure sounds like your two families are close and have a great relationship!
09-06-2011, 01:24 PM
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[quote=mim]I agree with this idea -- one of the hardest think for many of us is to accept a gift or help in a graceful manner. They probably would feel hurt if you refused their offer. Giving to a charity will help and please everyone
Just my opinion -- Mim [quote=mim]
I was just lectured sternly about this the other day....I have been very independent all my life, I don't accept the fact that my body is turning on me for that independence easily. I've got a tendency to try not burden anyone else. I try really hard to do everything for myself, even when I shouldn't.
You don't want to get one of those lectures. They hurt. Let them do what they can and accept with grace. Maybe if you really explain that you are still in the learning stages and that you would love them to have the quilt and let them buy whatever fabric they like, the batting, and you know we're all here to help with any planning you have to do, etc.
Hugs,
Sharon
Just my opinion -- Mim [quote=mim]
I was just lectured sternly about this the other day....I have been very independent all my life, I don't accept the fact that my body is turning on me for that independence easily. I've got a tendency to try not burden anyone else. I try really hard to do everything for myself, even when I shouldn't.
You don't want to get one of those lectures. They hurt. Let them do what they can and accept with grace. Maybe if you really explain that you are still in the learning stages and that you would love them to have the quilt and let them buy whatever fabric they like, the batting, and you know we're all here to help with any planning you have to do, etc.
Hugs,
Sharon
09-06-2011, 01:48 PM
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Originally Posted by IrelandDragonQuilting
Perhaps ask them to donate any monies they wish to pay you to the local shelters or food banks? They value your time and know what it takes to make a quilt. You are a very kind and generous person to make them quilts and not want anything in return. Sure sounds like your two families are close and have a great relationship!
09-06-2011, 03:15 PM
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Originally Posted by PABerard
I am not sure why you won't accept payment, but that is none of my business. I suggest you accept the payment and use it towards fabric for another charity quilt. Otherwise, maybe ask them to get you a gift card to your LQS? Maybe ask them to barter... perhaps they could make you dinner for however many nights it takes you to construct the quilt? Good luck ~ Pat
09-06-2011, 05:10 PM
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Sometimes people feel like you're giving them a handout, and that's why they want to pay. Or they don't want to be taking advantage of you (I understand you're okay with making a quilt for free, but in their opinion, it could feel like taking advantage). I like the suggestions to take the money and use it for charity quilts or just donate it, or to ask them to donate the money.
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