MadQuilter

Can you modify the pattern and add angel wings on one of two on his ascent to heaven? (Assuming you believe in heaven)

That baby will always have a place in the family's heart. I would acknowledge him and his passing.

misscarol

My cousin asked me to make all her grandchildren a quilt. She had twin grandsons born early and one passed away. I still made a quilt for him that she keeps at her house. I think the lost twin needs to be remembered. Follow your heart.

kkdolls

Please accept my sympathy for the family. I had twin daughters and lost one when she was nearly 19. Give the Mother a while, but I bet she will be delighted to have them both included in your quilt. There was 2, and always will be. One will just live in heaven.
God bless you for your kindness.

misscarol

I love the rainbow/dove idea. How precious.

RenaB

I would get it straight from the one that matters the most, the mother. Tell her exactly what you told us and tell her u want to respect her wishes.

I think she woukd appreciate and respect that u cared enough to ask.

If it was me, personally, I would want the memory of the twin that was lost to continue. The twin that lived will want to remember the memory of the brother that once shared a bond with him.

romanojg

only you know the parents so go by what you know. My niece lost a baby a couple of years ago and even right after it happened she would get really upset when others tried to act like the baby didn't exist. She was born too early and only survied a couple of days. For my niece if I would omit the baby from anything she'd be very upset. I know that everyone is different so this could up set her or act as a comfort to her.

Kkimberlee

I think it would be a beautiful tribute to remember the one that didn't make it. I think of the women who count their angel babies. It was still a baby, it was born, and it was a twin. Maybe save it for a later date, and give it privatly so she can grieve openly without others present. But, honestly... if one of my girls passed on, I would want to remember both of them.

QuiltnNan

this was my first thought. i made a preemie quilt for my daughter's third who died that day. she proudly displays the quilt on the wall with the pictures of her other 4 kids. unless you know that the couple is too sad to think about it right now.

Tropical

I agree that it might be best to wait and see how the Mom handles the situation. I would still give a gift for the living twin. After a while, you might tell her your original plan and let her decide if she would like to have you make it for her.

sall

Do not ignore the baby that died. I lost a son 8 years ago, and nothing gives me more joy then when people speak about him.