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Old 03-01-2015, 03:37 PM
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How about just sending her a note. Compliment her on her years of service and that your guild realizes that it is asking too much of her to be vp with her health problems. Assure her there will be a place for her when she feels better and can get back to meetings. Period, no hurt feelings you are concerned only for her.
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Old 03-01-2015, 04:30 PM
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When is your next election of officers? If its not too far off, I'd just wait and let her be voted out.
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Old 03-01-2015, 05:15 PM
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Please don't be so judgemental of your VP, unless you know exactly what's going on in her life. Just proceed with your guild activities and get someone else to help out with the VP duties. Then next year, elect a new VP. How about a little charity that's close to home!
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Old 03-01-2015, 05:50 PM
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Send her a get well card/miss you card, signed by as many of your guild members as you can gather (at one meeting), let her know she will be welcome back as a regular guild member when ever she is able to return. no hard feelings.... she may be embarrassed to be missing so many meetings, and just not know how to get out of it.. .dignity intact !! be kind to one another. !!!! LIFE HAPPENS !!!
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Old 03-02-2015, 05:39 AM
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Elections can't be far off.....hang in there, then replace her with a reliable someone who wants the position.

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Old 03-02-2015, 05:55 AM
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Originally Posted by Yankeegirl View Post
I agree with toverly - just let it go for now. However make sure at your meetings that you figure out who will be VP next year so the problem will be solved lol.
Just like in our government, the most important voice you have is your vote. I agree to treat this lady
not as she's treated your group but as you'd like to be treated yourself. Fool me once shame on you;
fool me twice shame on me. Your voice is your vote since there are no written rules. Talking about her
behind her back only stirs up the other members and churns your stomach.
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Old 03-02-2015, 06:40 AM
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I may have missed this, but has anyone asked her what's going on or if she wants to be replaced? In my guild this would have been a big deal because our VP is program chairperson. I think I would want to have several members meet with her in a casual, neutral setting and ask what she wants. If she honestly says she wants to continue or resign proceed accordingly. I just hope she's honest and doesn't use the situation to manipulate you. That happened in my guild. In that case it was a committee chair and others took over critical jobs until the new year and she was not reappointed. Good luck. I just hate these very issues regarding guild life.
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Old 03-02-2015, 08:30 AM
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Okay, hope this clears up a few things. This lady lives next door to my sister-in-law who is our guilds secretary. There are 2 other ladies who live in the same apartment complex and the 4 of them get together quite often for a meal or to go somewhere together. They see each other every day and check up on each other and I hear from my sister-in-law what this lady pulls with them and others. The guild isn't the only one that she's pulled this situation on. She did the same thing with her church, whined because she needed a new bed, the church bought her one and now she doesn't even attend services there. She also whined when the church didn't appoint her to a committee she had been on in the past (they didn't want her back) so to keep her happy they re-appointed her. I could go on. We meet at her church and she holds the key to the building, so when we have a meeting we have to get the key from her. I could go on. She has the "poor me" attitude and nobody else has ever been in her situation. Our election isn't until November, last election she said she wanted to keep the VP position so she was re-elected, nobody else had a nomination or spoke up that they wanted VP. We haven't seen her at the last 6 meetings/activities since. I have wonderful officers and members who have stepped up to help however they can, so I do believe after reading all the advice here, we should just let it go and see if or when she shows up and wonders why her position isn't recognized. She does have some health issues and I understand that, I myself have back problems but haven't let that stopped me.
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Old 03-02-2015, 08:42 AM
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I totally agree. Let her know your intentions and give her options. I would out of courtesy do it in writing with every ones ok and each member gets a copy. You could take a vote on it. but do it in writing and still welcome her when she's there. I didn't join the local guild this year for many reasons and those are obligations to be there. I like being independent. And the last couple times I went as a guest then turned down because of being a member one didn't like that I wasn't going to put up with a bully so I said I was done. But give her a heads up in writing with everyone's approval.
Originally Posted by joe'smom View Post
I think the decent thing would be for someone to give her a heads up by phone, that the subject of her non-attendance is going to be discussed at the next meeting. It would be awkward and humiliating to spring it on her in the group without warning, should she attend, and not really proper, imo, to discuss her in her absence if she's not been informed that her behavior is a matter of concern. Imagine how you'd like it handled if it were you being discussed, and use that as a guide.
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Old 03-02-2015, 09:24 AM
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Being on several boards, I totally agree that you need to have it in the by-laws. This stops most hurt feelings. If you don't have by-laws, make them. They can be as simple as one page stating what your group's mission is, when ad where you meet, how and when to elect officers, requirements for those officers and how to add or remove officers. At a later date you can amend and add more.
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