Watching out for Tender Feelings and yet Giving Advice
03-29-2013, 02:18 PM
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I would just let it go and address it if they come to you for assistance again. If they ask your opinion, just say it looks great but the quilting should meet the batting requirements if they want their quilt to last.
03-29-2013, 03:36 PM
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Originally Posted by ArtsyOne
I used to judge baked goods for 4H'ers. Some would be really awful, but I always concentrated on what was good about their product. For instance, for a dinner roll that was raw dough inside I would say "You did a beautiful job on judging the color that the rolls should be!" and for one that was burnt on the outside I would say "What a great job you did making sure that they were all the same size!"
I did once read an article on this topic. Apparently it's: Compliment - Critique - Compliment in that order.
You can use the same tactic here. "What a great job you did on choosing the colors! Did the batting manufacturer have information about how closely it should be quilted? I'd hate for it to get lumpy when you did such a great job on it."
I did once read an article on this topic. Apparently it's: Compliment - Critique - Compliment in that order.
You can use the same tactic here. "What a great job you did on choosing the colors! Did the batting manufacturer have information about how closely it should be quilted? I'd hate for it to get lumpy when you did such a great job on it."
03-29-2013, 04:14 PM
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Originally Posted by GramMER
I mentioned to the mother of my GD that her quilt needing more to "hold it together" but she just made the statement, "It has enough."
live and learn, that's all what's left to do I guess. It is going to be a learning experience...
Originally Posted by GramMER
It looks nice, but I am concerned when it is washed, the batting will fall down inside.
03-29-2013, 04:24 PM
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Originally Posted by michelleoc
Compliment first, then ask what the manufacturers recommended for quilting, stating that different battings have different requirements and that you want her beautiful quilt to last forever.
03-29-2013, 04:28 PM
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Yeah, some people have to learn the hard way. Tough to say if you bought the fabric, but once they found out why, they learn to do it right next time. Tougher still will be NOT saying, "I told you so!" when it falls apart.
03-29-2013, 05:09 PM
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Your GD's mom sounds like she doesn't care about the quilt her DD made or she would listen to your suggestion so the quilt maybe won't be ruined by washing it. Your DDIL is an adult so let her learn on her own if she didn't ask for input on the quilting.
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