When people don't appear grateful for the quilt they are given...
08-23-2011, 04:48 PM
#51
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A friend of mine and myself made a quilt for a mutual friend. It was a TOTAL surprise to her. It is a big queen size. My friend did all the terrific quilting on her Janome 6500. Great job and she was ecstatic! It looks great on her bed.
08-23-2011, 04:57 PM
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Originally Posted by tdvxh
I made a wall hanging for my step-daughter and her husband about 5 years ago. I have never seen it since. I had their names on it so they can't gift it to someone else. I often wonder where it is but don't want to ask. Needless to say, they won't get another one.
I had also made them a large casserole dish carrier complete with an insert for a large spoon. I figured they would use it since they attend a lot of pot lucks at their church. Last week I was at DD's mil's with the kids and others for a dinner. DD mil mentioned she couldn't find her casserole dish carrier. DD asked if it was blue, because she had a blue one at her house and didn't know where it came from! EXCUSE ME?????? Needless to say when my son in law tells me they don't have a quilt from me yet (and he has a couple of times) I just tell him that they haven't given me their colors yet. And so far they haven't given me their colors, nor pattern.
10-01-2011, 05:49 PM
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[quote=plainpat]When DH's Grmother died, we found stacks of Christmas gifts, including a red half slip she'd said she'd always wanted.All were in boxes....what a sad thing. After that,I got over any "too good to use" thoughts I'd ever had.
My GM was the same....every gift was up in her attic in the original box, saved for another day.
My GM was the same....every gift was up in her attic in the original box, saved for another day.
10-01-2011, 05:55 PM
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Originally Posted by hazeljane
When I make a quilt for a wedding or a baby quilt for folks I don't know well, i always send a note that says, in part:
" I make my quilts to be used. If this quilt is not to your taste, please feel free to pass it along to someone who might enjoy and use it. "
I would rather have them passed along than crammed in a closet for 20 years.
" I make my quilts to be used. If this quilt is not to your taste, please feel free to pass it along to someone who might enjoy and use it. "
I would rather have them passed along than crammed in a closet for 20 years.
10-01-2011, 05:56 PM
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Originally Posted by sixfootroad
Amen to seeing your gift used ~ no matter what it is. It speaks more than words can say ~ until you see your "gift" being used to cover the dirty motorcycle that is strapped into the back of the pickup truck! There were plenty of words said for that, but fortunately nobody else heard them!
10-01-2011, 06:00 PM
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I made a Jeff Gordan quilt for my grandson for his birthday.
With the left-over fabric I made matching curtains for him.
The quilt was all folded up on the kitched table and my daughter told him he needed to get it and put it on his bed.
He said, Oh no! Grandma made that. It's one of those keep sake things, that you put up and don't use, ever! It's special!
I thought it was so precious of him to think that much of it. I assured him that it was "safe" to use it. So, it's now on his bed.
With the left-over fabric I made matching curtains for him.
The quilt was all folded up on the kitched table and my daughter told him he needed to get it and put it on his bed.
He said, Oh no! Grandma made that. It's one of those keep sake things, that you put up and don't use, ever! It's special!
I thought it was so precious of him to think that much of it. I assured him that it was "safe" to use it. So, it's now on his bed.
10-01-2011, 06:04 PM
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Originally Posted by CircleSquare
I only read the first page of comments to this thread, but here are my thoughts:
First, yes, it's nice to know your labor of love is appreciated. But I don't do all that work just to get a thank you. The time spent working on a quilt is time loving the recipient. That love is unconditional. It doesn't depend on their thanks. And no matter what their reaction to the gift, I still had the incredible joy of making it. That's my reward.
First, yes, it's nice to know your labor of love is appreciated. But I don't do all that work just to get a thank you. The time spent working on a quilt is time loving the recipient. That love is unconditional. It doesn't depend on their thanks. And no matter what their reaction to the gift, I still had the incredible joy of making it. That's my reward.
10-01-2011, 06:11 PM
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Originally Posted by sailsablazin
Originally Posted by aliaslaceygreen
Originally Posted by Glassquilt
I don't give as much credence to gushy thank you-s spoken at showers as to the facial expressions & body language. I very much prefer to see the item used.
If the poor girl had carried on over gifts more than she did (a reasonable excitement over the THIRD bottle brush) we'd STILL be there!!
I did attend a bridal shower where they set up an assembly line (literally) with bridesmaids opening the gift, handed gift to bride, bride said, "How nice", then next bridesmaid shoved card back into bag and stacked them. The bride never opened a box or showed anything off. I was never so disappointed. It was like they were trying to get out of there with the loot as fast as they could.
10-01-2011, 06:29 PM
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Originally Posted by hazeljane
My thought is that not everyone likes quilts. And more so, not everyone likes every quilt. I love love love to look at the photos here, but I do not love all the quilts- some are just not my style.
When I make a quilt for a wedding or a baby quilt for folks I don't know well, i always send a note that says, in part:
" I make my quilts to be used. If this quilt is not to your taste, please feel free to pass it along to someone who might enjoy and use it. "
I would rather have them passed along than crammed in a closet for 20 years.
When I make a quilt for a wedding or a baby quilt for folks I don't know well, i always send a note that says, in part:
" I make my quilts to be used. If this quilt is not to your taste, please feel free to pass it along to someone who might enjoy and use it. "
I would rather have them passed along than crammed in a closet for 20 years.
10-02-2011, 03:55 AM
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When I make a quilt for a gift I first ask " If I were to make you a quilt, which three colors would you like to see in it? Is there any color you hate?" I tell them they don't get to select the fabrics, pattern or size of quilt although some offer their opinion any way, lol. That way I know that my gift will be something they like and will most likely use.
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