I hear you on the memories...I have some wonderful ones.
It's great your dad is doing so well at 95! My Mom will be 75 in August, she has lived with us, since we added an addition to our house when my Dad died 12 years ago. I am so grateful I still have her. She had lung cancer, had 2 of the 3 lobes of her right lung removed along with the tumor. Went thru several rounds of 2 different chemos. She pretty much sailed thru the chemo..lost her hair and had to have some shots for low blood counts, but all in all did great. But she ended up with an abscess in the area where the chest tubes had been from the lung cancer surgery. She and I have had numerous 6-9 week inpatient hospital stays for IV antibiotics in the years since the surgery. I have an amazing hubby, as I stay 24/7 with Mom when she's in the hospital and he never says a word except he knows I need to be with her.
Mom recently celebrated 10 years in remission, I know we got a miracle!
K