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Thread: I'm upset...he didn't like it

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    so sorry........that had to be heartbreaking

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    What a rude thing to say!! I LOVE your quilt - great job. I hope you don't feel alone in this matter. My DH's mother has for 50+ years with "every" gift, told him even as a child, "What do I need THAT for?" And then when we give her Christmas or birthday gifts, 2 years later, we get the things we give her re-gifted back to us. I have learned to laugh and ALWAYS make sure I give her things "I" want!!! Eventually, I'll get them. Don't feel bad - people, even families, can act in ignorance or jealousy.

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    I am so sorry that your feelings were hurt. Personally I think it is lovely and very patriotic. Sometimes recipients (family, friends, etc.) do not know how to accept a gift handmade from the heart. Unsure if they are embarrassed or just uncomfortable being receivers. I don't know what was going through his mind.....but then, I really do not understand my father either.

    Again....I am sorry that your feelings were hurt and he was insensitive to your gift. Hugs from me to you.

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    Quote Originally Posted by SharonAnne
    What a rude thing to say!! I LOVE your quilt - great job. I hope you don't feel alone in this matter. My DH's mother has for 50+ years with "every" gift, told him even as a child, "What do I need THAT for?" And then when we give her Christmas or birthday gifts, 2 years later, we get the things we give her re-gifted back to us. I have learned to laugh and ALWAYS make sure I give her things "I" want!!! Eventually, I'll get them. Don't feel bad - people, even families, can act in ignorance or jealousy.
    I am so impressed with your generosity of spirit. I'm not sure I could be so forgiving to give my MIL a gift that I knew she would say something disparaging about, even if I knew that I would get it back eventually. You have a lovely forgiving spirit.

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    I made my Dad a quilt a while back. He stuck it in his closet. Yep, it does hurt.

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    You did a great job! He should appreciate all the love you put into this beautiful quilt! Keep smiling and never stop doing what you love! :)

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    My DH father was a mean man and my DH has very few if any good memories of him. When he died the emotion my DH felt most strongly was relief and then that was followed by guilt for feeling relief. No grief. He had been too mean to grieve over. Some parents are like that. Just realize that you shouldn't feel guilty.

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    I think people who don't don't craft have no idea what goes into a project. I'm sorry Dad didn't realize how much love went into his gift. It really is a great wall hanging and there's nothing that says patriotic like red, white and blue.

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    As a parent, I am very thankful for anything my children give me. Moreso, if it is handmade. We don't all have the same taste. But for a father to be like that to his daughter is ridiculous. Be happy knowing you made a great gift. His loss!!!

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    I think it is gorgeous.......and I would love to be able to give aquilt to my daddy.....lost him just a few years ago...and it still hurts.

    Please know I amsending you hugs and smiles for your heart.....

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    My Dad has a quilt I gave him, but I have no idea where he put it. He forgets to be nice to his children.

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    I'm so sorry your father has that attitude. It looks PLENTY patriotic to me. Good job on the piecing and quilting. AND the binding.

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    I'd be proud to hang it in my home! Nice job, congrats. Be proud of what you do!

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    My father's comment to me, when I gave him a lap quilt, was "Why do you waste your time doing crap like that?"

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    Being a Dad, there is nothing my daughter could give me that I wouldn't show the appropriate gratitude and appreciation for. Your father's response is quite tone-deaf.

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    I haven't read through this whole thread but wanted to add my two cents. I think you have learned a very important lesson, unfortunately the hard way. I learned a long time ago that when I make something for someone, you have to let it go. I mean really let it go. You did what you wanted for your father, it turned out beautiful, and whether he wants it or not, it really is the thought that counts. Now let it go. It is now his to do with what he wants. Some of us that are older and have been quilting or crafting for a number of years have probably had our feelings hurt more than once. When I make something for someone I tell them if they don't like it, get rid of it or give it to someone else. I gave it to them because I wanted them to have it. Now- let it go.
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    I read this when it ws first posted. Your father is downright rude.
    He should at least appriciate that you made him something.
    It reminded me of when my son was three. He went outside and found the most perfect pinecone for my stepfather,gave it to show him that hw loved him, and the b......d said, what the h..l do i want with a pinecone.

    Some people are going to say im rude, but...you should shove that quilt where he sun dont shine, as they say, and hope he chokes on it!!!!!!! Shame on your father for belittleing something you put effort into for him. Shame on him for not appriciating the work and effort you put forward to show him your love, gratitude and appriciation for him. As my mom would say...may he
    rot in h..l

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    So sorry you were hurt - but i think it is beautiful. Nice job.

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    [I] m so sorry that happened to you. I had the same thing happen to me basically. However, my father hated me and said I wasn't his, so I guess I should not have been surprised. Anyway, stupid me, I made him a quillow. He threw it on the floor and it remained there until he died and my sister took it and sold it. We just have to go on and try to forget that it happened. We don't understand what makes them tick, I guess, but not only did it get rejected by my father, but my sister also. Never have seen her since that day.


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    I know it's not perfect, but I MADE it for him....I didn't even get a thank you :-( he just folded it and put it aside.
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    I wonder if the OP is still on QB. Does anyone know? I feel terrible for the OP, but so many people have said nice things that I'm glad she posted. There are people who simply have no tact and it appears that family members are some of the worst!

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    I sorrow for you. You did a fine job, but not everyone wants or appreciates quilt work.

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    The quilt is wonderful and its his loss. sorry about your hurt. My mother is very gifted at doing the same thing, it hurts alot. With this being your first and the time spent on it. I am sorry.

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    I think it looks great!!! Sorry to say this but he sounds like a complete jerk!!!!

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    Gosh..I think it is beautiful. I'd find a very small flag and attach it to it and say "here" enjoy.
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    I only make things for people who ask me to. We cherish our quilt and sewing projects. BUt this father may connect them with being poor and made out of necessity during his childhood. Just guessing...but his age may the key. Hey, just create for those who request something.
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