I'm upset...he didn't like it
06-19-2010, 04:53 PM
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Your wall-hanging is beautiful and is very patriotic! I feel badly that your feelings were hurt; mine would have been, as well. Some people are just very gruff and don't know how to graciously accept a gift.
06-19-2010, 04:57 PM
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WOW, thank you all soooo much for the love and support here tonight, It is VERY appreciated. I left it at his house with him, I will get him the stuff to hang it, if he does NOT hang it, I will take it back and donate it (excellent idea by the way) to the VA... as he is a VET too. I truely thought he would like it and am shocked at that response...but he is very hard to please.
Again, thank you to everyone, you put a smile on my face :-)
Again, thank you to everyone, you put a smile on my face :-)
06-19-2010, 04:58 PM
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Originally Posted by wvdek
So, here is what I would do. When I have settled down, go back to dads and ask him where the gift is you gave him. When he shows you, state to him that since he did not appreciate all of the love and time spent making him something special, you are taking it to the nearest VA center for the guys who have to live there and would really appreciate it, if it is ok with him. Aask him if he would like to go with you to present it to them himself. Not being mean or nasty, just letting him know that his behavior was uncalled for and he can't step on you that way.
Now, I agree there malybe a medical problem with him so bring it up to his Dr. if you can.
Now, I agree there malybe a medical problem with him so bring it up to his Dr. if you can.
06-19-2010, 04:58 PM
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:-)
Originally Posted by Charlee
Taiboo....I just showed your post to William (my DH)...he asked me to tell you that as a vet, he would be MORE than honored, it would occupy a place of honor, and he's willing to pay for shipping!! :lol:
06-19-2010, 05:00 PM
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I'm so sorry, it's a terrible feeling when your feelings get hurt even more so by a Dad. Your quilt is very pretty and it is patriotic, maybe he will have a change of heart, sometimes people react that way when they don't really know what to say.
06-19-2010, 05:03 PM
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It is a nice wallhanging and it is patriotic. You obviously put alot of time, effort and thought into that gift. He is just being nasty. There is probably no "health" reason because he has acted like that with others and there is no excuse. He just sounds like a bully.
It all depends on the family dynamics. Me, being me--and I AM NOT suggesting this for you, I would have told him where to stick it, I would have taken it back and I would never give him anything or any part of me again, not even a card on Father's Day. My best friend would be like you and let him pass. wvdek has a great suggestion.
It all depends on the family dynamics. Me, being me--and I AM NOT suggesting this for you, I would have told him where to stick it, I would have taken it back and I would never give him anything or any part of me again, not even a card on Father's Day. My best friend would be like you and let him pass. wvdek has a great suggestion.
06-19-2010, 05:06 PM
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I love it! Stars are one of my favorites, and I like the colors you chose. So sorry your dad didn't like it. He probably doesn't understand how much effort went into his present.
06-19-2010, 05:06 PM
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Originally Posted by taiboo
My husband felt REALLY bad about it and loved it and today asked me if tomorrow he could go to my local LQS and buy me the accu-go that i have been waiting for July to get in order to receive my bday discount my lqs offers...LOL...I had to fess up that i already bought it online for almost $100 cheaper LOL and it will be here on Tues. OPPPS
06-19-2010, 05:06 PM
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If my two young girls were NOT with me celebrating with us trust me...I would have done this.
Originally Posted by seamstome
It is a nice wallhanging and it is patriotic. You obviously put alot of time, effort and thought into that gift. He is just being nasty. There is probably no "health" reason because he has acted like that with others and there is no excuse. He just sounds like a bully.
It all depends on the family dynamics. Me, being me--and I AM NOT suggesting this for you, I would have told him where to stick it, I would have taken it back and I would never give him anything or any part of me again, not even a card on Father's Day. My best friend would be like you and let him pass. wvdek has a great suggestion.
It all depends on the family dynamics. Me, being me--and I AM NOT suggesting this for you, I would have told him where to stick it, I would have taken it back and I would never give him anything or any part of me again, not even a card on Father's Day. My best friend would be like you and let him pass. wvdek has a great suggestion.
06-19-2010, 05:14 PM
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I'm really sorry that happened to you, it sounds just like something my Dad would do. I'll never understand why somebody would want to deliberately want to hurt somebody's feelings...go figure. Anyway, I decided a long time ago that I don't care...I only have to sleep with my own conscious, not anyone else's. I've only made 2 things that he liked when I gave them to him....a shirt embroidered with his "beloved" dog's name and likeness and...a roll of toilet paper embroidered with the words "*(it happens"... :roll:
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