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I'm upset...he didn't like it

Old 06-19-2010, 05:43 PM
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Can't say much more than what everyone else said so I will just second everyone's thoughts. I think you did a wonderful job and I really think it is patriotic. I especially like the repeat of the flag fabric. When a few days have passed, I think I would ask him if he cared if you gave it to the local VA (or similar) since he does not want it. I wouldn't bother with giving him the hanging stuff. One thing about hurts- they eventually heal and like the song says, forgiving is easy but forgetting takes a long, long time.
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Old 06-19-2010, 05:45 PM
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LOL It's funny, I just visited one of my friends on FB and her new status is, "There's just no accounting for taste." How appropriate for this thread! HUGS!!
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Old 06-19-2010, 05:48 PM
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I feel bad for you and I am teared up because you tried so hard. Sound like your hubby is a good man and I am glad you found him

Here's what I know about fathers....mine is great.

He is little man, only 5'3' who had polio as a child and NEVER could do the normal dad things because of physical problems. He worked every day at menial jobs for low pay until he was 70 without complaining about what had to be daily pain. He was even tempered with us and always proud of us. He was the "go to" parent in the neighborhood when us kids or our friends got in a jam. He would help you out, teach you a lesson and never taddle to the other parents.

He did not become a dad until much later in life but when he was younger he played dad to all of his nieces and nephews when his able-bodied brothers and sisters had no time for their children. I have been told by all of my older cousins that he was as close to a "dad" as they ever had.

He is getting up there now, 83, and with his disabilities he will not be with us long but tomorrow, he will receive calls and gifts from his kids but I bet at least a half dozen of my cousins will stop by or call. They stop by his home all the time, traveling hours to see him and do things for him that they do not do for their own fathers. I know they all wish that he was THEIR dad and are happy that he was in their lives.

This is your father's loss not yours.
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Old 06-19-2010, 06:10 PM
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I think it hurts twice as bad when it comes from a parent. My Dad after my mother died, i stayed 2 weeks, we were close each cried when I had to come home. Very sad. I started sending him emails and insprirational things about , how to keep going, etc. He emailed me and told me not to send him anymore sad things, next I sent jokes and funny things, he said don't bother sending them I don't read them, next I sent family going ons, you got it. He did not want to hear about everyones problems. I love my Dad very much and will go see him this summer, but I had to learn that not all of us look at life the same way.
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Old 06-19-2010, 06:11 PM
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Aw man! I'm so sorry your dad was a (insert nasty word here) about this. Your work is beautiful. Take your hubby's words as truth, and your father's as crazy.
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Old 06-19-2010, 06:13 PM
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I'm so sorry you had that experience. I LOVE it. You did a beautiful job on it...Don't be sad :-( ....Some people just don't know how to be gracious.... :thumbup: :thumbup:
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Old 06-19-2010, 06:14 PM
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It's beautiful !!! I love it!!! Wish my first quilt was that good :lol:
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Old 06-19-2010, 06:14 PM
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That is so sad. I can see my Dad doing that at some point, but I would stick up for myself and he finally treated me like an adult. My Dad lived me for the last 7 years of his life (He was 85 and died at 92) - there were times he would make me cry and I would take the dogs for a walk and sit on the beach and cry!!! When I would finally go home and he would apologize. Things got better as we got used to each other and I miss him so much!
I really like you wall hanging and think it looks very patriotic. Love red, white and blue.
I agree with others - go back and get it and give it to a charity.
(I hooked my Mom a rug once (hated hooking) and she gave it to her dog for his bed!!!! I was so hurt, but now laugh about it!)
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Old 06-19-2010, 06:16 PM
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I am so sorry you had to endure such hurt.
You have every right to be proud of your quilt! It is lovely, the work is right on and it is 110% patriotic!

I am just speechless at your dads reaction, but it is his loss. You are a wonderful thoughtful daughter and desire a lot of credit for doing such a thoughtful thing.

My hubby is a vet and he thinks this is very patriotic and nice.

{{{HUGS}}}
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Old 06-19-2010, 06:33 PM
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Kimberlie -

I hate that your hard work was not appreciated. If it's any comfort, my wife and I both love the quilt and think you did a great job on it. Maybe you should ask for the quilt back so you can donate it to QOV? At least that way someone would appreciate your hard work. Also I know who would NOT get another quilt from me. Try not to be discouraged or take it personally. I'm glad you posted so the rest of us can enjoy your work and offer a word of encouragement.

Keep Quilting

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