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Thread: Passage Quilts really do help

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    Power Poster debcavan's Avatar
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    Passage Quilts really do help

    My 102 year old Mother died Sunday during the night. I sat with her until Tom, the funeral director came. I saw the cart with the Passage quilt. We talked for awhile and then he asked me to leave. He brought my Mother out of the room covered with the most beautiful Passage quilt that my quilt group had made. Somehow the quilt over her kept me calm and I was willing to allow him to take her. His kindness in using the quilt somehow reassured me that he would take care with her.

    My group has made 10 passage quilts. We have given them to nursing homes, assisted livings, hospitals along with funeral parlors. The heart quilt below is the design of the one used for my mother but it was a scrappy quilt. I quilted it the same way with the feathers across and it had a large feathered border.

    The other is another design we have used. A foundation block that has diagonal stripping is the design we now use. The diagonal design is the one that was the easiest for our group to use. Even the beginning quilters sew with us for that design. The quilts are 60" x 90". I use a polyester batting for ease in washing.

    I had Tom show it to the family the next day when we made arrangements. They were touched that it had been used. Tom says he hasn't had to wash it. He tries to be very careful of it.
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    So sorry to hear of your Mother's passing. I know your pain. Thank you for sharing the story and pictures of the Passage quilt.
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    So sorry you lost your Mom. You did have her for a really long time, you were lucky for that. Such a sweet thing about the passage quilt and a very good idea.
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    What a lovely tradition to start. I'm so sorry for your loss. My own mother is 96 and I always treasure each moment we still have together.
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    So sorry for your loss.
    What changes she was part of during her lifetime!

    With the sadness, it is so nice that you were able to experience the passage quilt, and receive comfort. Even nicer, that it was one of the quilts you had a part in making.

    I have completed one Passage Quilt for our local Hospice House and only hope it has helped others in their time of need, much as it has helped you. I'm planning a 2nd, and am glad to get your input re design choices.
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    So sorry to hear about your mother.
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    I'm sorry about your mom passing. She lived a very long life.

    I've never heard of a passage quilt, they are beautiful and a thoughtful idea.
    Grandma of 5 beautiful grand kids, 4 crazy cats & 1 dog!

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    So sorry for your loss. I never heard of passage quilts but they are beautiful
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    I'm very sorry to hear of your mothers passing. The quilt is a beautiful idea and I know if we would have had one at my mothers passing it would have helped me. It's wonderful of your group to do this for other families.
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    My sympathy to you and your family. Thank you for sharing this story. You are an awesome daughter!
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    Deb, so sorry to hear of your Mothers passing.
    Doesn't matter how old they are ARE how old we are, we still miss our Mothers.
    Passage quilts are a loving and thoughtful gesture.

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    So sorry for your loss. What a beautiful thing to use a quilt for!
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    My condolences on the loss of your precious Mother. I have not heard of the tradition of passage quilts. So thank you for taking the time to explain and post pictures. It is a very beautiful and respectful way of marking the passage of this life to the next. Thank you.

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    I'm so sorry for your loss. What a beautiful story. I know that something like that would have helped me when my husband passed away. I'm going to tell my quilt guild about it and maybe we can start something like your guild and make these for our local Hospice, nursing homes, and funeral homes. Thank you for sharing.
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    Wow 102 glad you got to enjoy your mom for a very long time. Cherish that time spent with her. Sorry for your loss, HUGS!!!!!

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    I lost my mom when I was 37 years old and that was in 1988 and to this day I still miss her. Time has healed the heart break and I now just remember the great times we had. The quilts are absolutely wonderful. I have had to watch two people being taken out in a body bag and it is so difficult. Bless you all for making these wonderful quilts. I pray the good times you had with her will soon be your rememberance of her.

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    Sorry for your loss Deb. What a wonderful thing your group does. Such a sweet thought. {{{{{HUGS}}}}}
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    I am so sorry for your loss. Thank you for sharing the idea of the passage quilt.
    Have a happy day,

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    What a lovely rememberance you will have in your heart forever.
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    So very sorry for your loss, and such beautiful quilts to go home in, thank you for showing use the Passage Quilts.
    May you always have Love to Share , Health to Spare, and Friends that Care!

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    It has been 8 years since I lost my mom at 93 and them taking her out of my home was the hardest thing I have ever had to do..wish there had been a passage quilt for her...I've never heard of this...still miss her everyday...took me 6 years to get back to quilting again..got all her things..but just grieved so long...one day happened upon this Quilting Board and all the wonderful things that are said and done on here got me back to quilting..I'm so thankful for this...now I think of my mom when I'm sewing and remember all the wonderful things we did together...Thanks Quilting Board...

    I'm so sorry for your loss of your mom...she will be with you every day...in your heart and all the memories...God Bless...
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    Quote Originally Posted by joyce888 View Post
    So sorry to hear of your Mother's passing. I know your pain. Thank you for sharing the story and pictures of the Passage quilt.
    I, too, am so sorry to hear of your Mom's passing & know your pain. I miss my Mother every day of my life. You were so lucky to be able to be with your Mother as she crossed over. Please accept my deepest condolences.

    These quilt are just beautiful... both in sentiment & in execution. Is the heart one a 4-patch variation?

    Every day I hope your heart heals a little more. {{{ H U G S }}}
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    How wonderful that you could be with your Mom as she passed.................... hugs to you. Memories can ease the pain after time. Take care.
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    Sorry for the loss of your mother. The passage quilt is a lovely idea and wish I had known of this when I lost my mom four years ago. It was very hard for us, as she was only 56. I do have some of her clothing so maybe I can make something for all of us out of her clothes. Peace and comfort to you and your family.... Erin

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