I talked to the extended family way before Halloween to get colors, likes/dislikes, and suggestions for all my dh side of the family. I made 28 popcorn snowmen for each, 6 tooth fairy pillows for the grandkids, 12 coffee cozies with their initials embroideried on them for the young adults and 2embroidered pillowcases for the teenagers, embroidered 3 photo albums for dh sisters and a table runner of the inlaws and 6 framed family art for each family. It took me over a month (and lots and lots of hours and money). At Thanksgiving we spoke again about Christmas and my dh informed them of how I had worked so hard to finished all the gifts for everyone.

So today, my sil called and said that everyone has decided that we are NOT going to exchange gifts but instead do a white elephant (exchange junk from the garage or gag gifts). I know Christmas is about giving but I fill like I have been hit in the stomach. I am very sad and feel so unappreciated.

What would you do????

It sounds to me like you are ready for your own craft sale. You have a whole booth ready to sell. Buy yourself something nice!!!

Give it to them some other time, maybe throughout the year as a surprise.

Unfortunately, the gifts are personalized with their names.

Nice gifts. I'd give everybody but the sil their gift and give her junk from the garage.

I would go ahead and give the gifts as planned.
Find a white elephant gift and join in on the fun.
Maybe hand them the gifts as you are all leaving, and wish them a heartfelt Merry Christmas. Don't let their inconsideration bother you, or your Christmas spirit :wink: :D:D:D

I may be strange, but I would give the gifts anyway.

Give them the gifts anyway, tell them you had already made them. Next year you will go along with the crowd.

I would give them the handmade gifts anyway!

Have a Merry Christmas and take gifts for the elephant thing

I would give them the gifts and let them be reminded about what it is all about.from the heart not garbage(garage) sale.