Sometimes first time Mommies are very excited about everything being 'perfect' for their babies and to them it can be all about 'matching'. After they get their 2nd one it becomes a much more relaxed atmosphere. Try not to be hurt and just make your new baby a quilt and give it to the young parents and tell them it is an 'spare'. Also, first time parents are not aware of how much laundry those little bitty humans produce. They tend to get tinkle, poopoo and spitup on everything. They will be glad to have the 'spare'!