Hi Marilyn, and a warm welcome from Ann Arbor. I, too, lost a son (14). He was riding a bike and was hit by a car. It's been 20 years. The pain will never go away, but it just doesn't hurt so much as time goes by. We shouldn't outlive our children.
Quilting is a good stress reliever and a wonderful way to be creative. You will find lots of good advice, help, support, encouragement, ideas and make new friends on this board. This board is not only about quilting but also about friendships. There are lots of {{{{{ HUGS }}}}} here if you ever need one.