This is how I solved the problem of having to tell my family what I want….. It covers Birthday Anniversary Mothers Day etc.
I have a list on the fridge that has a WANT and a NEED column. I put what I want and what I need on it and then everyone has a choice of what to get me and I don’t need to say a word. I just cross out what ever I get that was on the list and add when I need too.