I would give them what I want them to have and find something to play the white elephant game with (pieces of coal comes to mind) ... But, I wouldn't burden myself with bitterness.
Christmas is about what you want to give to others, regardless of what they do for or to you.
You may never make another gift for that part of the family, but this year, you had a plan, you accomplished your set goal and all that is left is the deliver. DELIVER! <wave>
You have done a great job, by the way :thumbup: :thumbup: :thumbup: