Originally Posted by mmonohon

Thanks to all for letting me vent and for your points of view, it is always nice to see things from all sides. You are all wonderful.

This is what I think will happen:

1. I enjoyed making the gifts because I love each one of them (even if their behavior doesn't always deserve it --but that is life and family)
2. I will give them their presents (for dh, my sons and my benefit and pleasure)
3. We will participate in the white elephant to be good sports.
4. I will have a great Christmas.

I wish I could blame their behavior on money issues but can't. Dh has talked to his family many times on their behaviors to our family (and to others relatives, community and neighbors) to no avail. I keep telling myself that I knew better (but I guess I always hope for the best in people --I am still a little naive.)

Next year, I will do something small the wee little ones and concentrate on charities and my beautiful boys and the greatest dh ever.