There are many good suggestions listed here. Wisdom is given in Spirit and love of our Father and Savior. May I add my 2 cent worth?
I've worked with women from all assorts of abuse. In Ohio we have a group called Choices. Maybe you have something similar in her area. Woman who fight back by defending their children often get hurt more seriously. Leaving or defending ones in hostile relationships can get woman and their children murdered. Please offer her in private numbers that can not be label as abuse networks. Even having a strange number can be dangerous. One of the techniques of these guys is isolation away from the woman's support system. It is about control and intimidation. Boundaries are often blurred and lacking. Knowledge is power for her. She needs to see what abuse is.
Maybe not finishing the quilt and having a tyeing party would help show bounties and allow you fellowship with your daughter. May Our Lord give you wisdom in this concern. Amen