I read a book once about a quilt that had curses(NOT cursing) quilted into the quilt. Turned out to be a scam to up the price of the quilt. :-) But, maybe you could quilt in 'be kind to your children';'love one another', etc. Man, that is a bad situation. The mother should realize that will scar her children for life, better to be without a father. okay, I'll get off my hobby horse, had an abusive father. Sorry for your situation and for the children.