Like JanTx, we also did this same journey 24 years (exactly-today is his birthday) and 20 years ago...we always felt so blessed to have been able to adopt 2 sons. We were on a waiting list for 10 years before we adopted our first, and then we were in a 'lottery" drawing for our second (they chose 8 couples out of about 80 to be studied that year)...I give the young birth moms lots of credit for making the decision they did..and am so thankful for the joy the boys have added to our lives.
There are so many colors you could use that would work for either a boy or girl...as long as you are happy with the colors it will be the perfect quilt!
It is a long process...but worth every minute of it...best of luck to you!