people have to choose to be happy. there are plenty who will never be happy because they really don't want to be. and they can easily drag you down with them. my ex was one of them. he was a drama king. he'd play up a hangnail. it has really been so pleasant not to have to hear that day after day. i'm not depressed anymore and my blood pressure has gone down since he left. it turned out to be a good thing.