Finding something kind even if you have to reach for it is worth the encouragement it will give the newbie to keep quilting and sewing and to hone their skills or lack thereof. Helping someone to believe they can conquer anything is an important incentive for being kind and helpful if they are open to it. Being a teacher by trade, everyone learns in different ways, different situations and by positive criticism. On that note, I have to say I always attempt to be as honest as possible but not cruel.