Originally Posted by Lisa_wanna_b_quilter
Only make her a quilt if making it will make you happy.
Agreed. I would say forget it, but that's just me.
I was going to make my husband a quilt about a year ago as a surprise, but I got too excited to contain it, so I went ahead and showed him the fabric I'd picked out, which would've worked perfectly for the pinwheel blocks I was planning. He didn't like the fabric! He said, "Oh...I wasn't expecting something like THAT....I mean, it's nice, I guess..." He's not typically an unappreciative person, but it just KILLED me.
So I said forget it. It's not that I was punishing him by not making it, but any time I would sit down to work on it, I would remember his reaction, and my feelings would get hurt all over again. I just abandoned the project. I'll make him a quilt some day, but I just still don't feel like it yet.
So if it makes you sad or frustrated to work on her quilt, then don't. But if you can still enjoy yourself, then go right ahead.