The loss you tell of is so very sad, both of them. The soldier, of course, hits me so close to home; I pray for his family.
Google "Quilts of Valor", or "American Hero Quilts", or check out some patriotic quilts here.
http://quilting.about.com/od/picture...Dad-s-Quilt.ht
What a wonderful thing for you to do, to make this quilt.
Jan in VA