awww so sorry. I'm the queen of busy work. satisfies me, somehow. Since I'm 30 min from OK border, I mapquested us. LOL! 230 miles. Sorry. I'd say send it to me & I'll do it, but you don't know me. Plus, you can get your "grieving" done while you rip. Glad your sis will help.
Can you just undo sections & hand quilt as you go? (Not that I know all that much about it.)