I know how you feel. Every time I find something I feel like I can't do without, my husband talks about how soon he will be retiring and how much we will have to cut back. (I work for him so when he retires I will as well.) Later he talks about all the trips he wants to take once we retire. It feels like his dreams are more important than mine are. I always feel guilty when I buy something I really don't need. It's really not fair for one spouse to rule the desires of the other, but it happens all the time. Some of you are more fortunate than the rest of us.