You asked what were you missing ??? It's so strange but this wk I cut a cotton shirt that belonged to my husband who is still living,,,,and though how I will save all of his cotton shirts as he "rips or ruins them,,,so that I can make a quilt from them after he is no longer with me,,,it gave me such a warm feeling to think that I could do that and have him wrapped around me for comfort...I think what is missing is "your desire" to do this....think of the love and joy you would be giving her.....we have been married 51 yrs...