I didn't get married to cook and clean up after DH. I could do that without adding another person to do it for. No DD of mine was raised to think to get married meant she was expected to be the main cook and housekeeper. Everyone over eight years old should not expect maid service from mom. To not have the time to do something I enjoy doing would be stifling to me and for what end? To wash another load of someone's dirty laundry? Cook another adult's meal? I don't think so.