It is very rude. But that is so common now. The whole idea a a shower is to help the new couple out however, and I guess this is the easiest way. Usually they would have to return half of the stuff anyway. Can you remember doing that? I got so many duplicates of Corning Ware I was so disappointed, as I would have rather had towels, sheets. But you couldn't request things then like they do now. So it is just a sign of the times. Sad to say. When you're young you don't think much of others..anyway I think I've acquired it through the years. (I hope)