I have learned over the years and now only gift those who are kind enough to say thank you. A couple of Grandkids have asked why they haven't received a quilt yet and were told point blank that when they brush up on their manners and learn to thank the giver they, too, will be gifted. Didn't seem to sink in so now they receive nothing at all from us. My husband thinks I'm being mean --- I think I'm being cool. I can live with me and am satisfied.
Isn't it amazing how the thank you notes will magically appear once they are prompted?