Being a control freak like yourself, FMQ is just something else to "control"!! Deep breath, make up a small quilt sandwich (15"sq gives you a bit to hang onto) drop the feed dogs, speed medium, foot on the pedal slowly and as you increas the speed of the machine, move the sandwich slowly. Take your time!! If the needle/thread breaks, replace it! Do not give up! Keep trying, no-one is over your shoulder telling you what you are doing is wrong. Do what works for you. And, it is really true what everyone who does FMQ says - PRACTICE, PRACTICE, PRACTICE.
It won't happen overnight, but, it will happen!! Be a true control freak, and take control LOL! Good luck, you will be up and FMQ'ing in no time. Dianne.